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Valentines Day

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daisychain01 · 13/02/2015 22:47

Valentines Day card

Was thinking about 14th February today.

It's fine if everything is going well, you have someone to make a fuss of, someone who makes you feel like The Dog's Dodah for the day.

But if you don't have all that stuff and you're feeling a bit empty and sad, well what then? All is not lost. I don't suppose the above will change things massively, but it's just a little something....

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SelfLoathing · 13/02/2015 22:52

Aw! Daisychain! That was a sweet thing to do!

I've long since given up caring about Valentines day but in the days when I did a female friend and I would have an evening in with champagne and a selection of trashy horror films. No chick flicks. No romance. No comedy (which has back door romance!). Just trashy horror. God I saw some so bad they were great films.

SelfLoathing · 13/02/2015 22:54

I can recommend a whole array of films in that class.

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daisychain01 · 13/02/2015 22:59

Grin I luuuurve horror movies, esp Stephen King and those old B&W Christopher Lee Dracula ones. I'm a lightweight for the really horrific ones tho lol. And count me in on the bubbly!

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daisychain01 · 13/02/2015 23:02

Yeah forget Soshul Meeeejah it will be full of the normal stealth boasts and most of it made-up guff Smile

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CreativeRain · 13/02/2015 23:10

When my XP dumped me in a very cruel way 2 years ago I hated Valentines Day - secretly hoping he'd appear or maybe send some flowers. Obviously nothing came of that because he was a self obsessed tosser

But this year life is pretty good. Theres no replacement DP in my life but I have a great social life and new friends and interests. I did this by getting out there, meeting people, joining things etc. Not everything worked out, but gradually some things did and and my life is now unrecognisable from how it was when XP was in my life. So forget about feeling sad and start building a new life.

Flowers for you daisy

fattymcfatfat · 13/02/2015 23:18

Grin stupid valentines day. ..think im in the minority of being pregnant and single on valentines day! so I cant join in with the bubbly but trashy horror here I come!

SelfLoathing · 13/02/2015 23:24

Maybe we should turn this into a schadenfreude or more accurately "a glad it wasn't me" tales of Valentine's Day Horror that happened to other people to make ourselves feel better.

The worst one I know was a friend of mine (who was then mid-20s and a lovely, attractive woman) was dating a wealthy guy who she was really in love with. He was the sort of w/banker guy that would send a car to pick her up.

They'd been seeing each other for a few months and he'd said to her about Valentine's day (which was a Saturday) "get all dressed up, I'll send a car for you, it's a surprise."

She got all dressed up. And sat around waiting.. . waiting and waiting. Nothing happened.

Stood up.

Later turned out he'd started seeing a woman who was (I kid you not) a Victoria's Secret model and that's where he was.

So glad nothing like that has happened to me.

HelenaDove · 13/02/2015 23:27

daisychain thats really sweet. I LOVE the Hammer films too I wonder whats on the Horror channel tomorrow night.

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daisychain01 · 14/02/2015 04:25

Inspiration, that's what we need, gotta love a story like your's creative!

SL that's the pits.

People like that are utter wbankers!

I think an evening of horror is definitely on the cards then.

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woowoo22 · 14/02/2015 07:55

Aww that is lovely!

Agree with the anti #blessed nonsense - most over the top FB shite is said by people I know are very unhappy in their relationships - infidelity, abuse etc. Sometimes I can't reconcile their FB life with their actual life ie texts/messages of all the FW things their Hs have done.

woowoo22 · 14/02/2015 07:56

Valentines Day has clearly left me unable to write a proper sentence Blush

YvyB · 14/02/2015 08:34

Fattymc, that was me in 2004. 6 days later my ds was born. 11 years later he's just climbed in to bed for a cuddle, said "Poor you mum, you've got a horrid cold." (True - I have!) and given me a huge (pointy knees, jabby elbows) hug.

I'm going to finish my tea, shove on my fluffy slipper-boot things (ds INSISTED I had them for Christmas - my dm tried to convince him otherwise, but no, apparently 'mum NEEDS them, she's always got cold feet') and potter round my pretty, girly, just how I like it and no smelly man smells house.

Happy Valentines Day - very soon you'll be getting your own cuddles from your own gorgeous dc. Lucky you - wish I could turn back time, go back to where you are and have those 11 years with my ds all over again xx

fattymcfatfat · 14/02/2015 08:52

yvb got a while to go yet not due til july. but I do have ds and dd Grin dd is crying because shes not allowed boardgames and ds is arguing with his uncle over lego! not one of them have realised its valentines day!

Granville72 · 14/02/2015 14:14

My OH clearly isn't bothering today, not even a little something off our son (though I did make a card with my son for him to give his daddy).

Ah well, says it all really.

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daisychain01 · 14/02/2015 14:28

That's why I thought we could have a 'party' (not even a St V's one!) because I read many threads on MN about how hurt people feel they wish their partner would use the opportunity to be a bit nicer (let's put aside the fact there are the other 363 days of the year they can't be arsed as well) so I figured, just like Oprah Winfrey said "I can buy my own flowers!" I thought I'd share a card!

I'm off Facebook because for the years I didn't have DP I found it a bit sick making all the steal boasts #blessed ad nauseam.

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daisychain01 · 14/02/2015 14:31

granville your post gave me goosebumps because I thought about the fact you are giving your DS the best message for his future about those small loving gifts that mean a lot.

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Granville72 · 14/02/2015 14:45

Yes I know. They even walked to the shop this morning and I thought he may have come back with a bunch of Tulips or a card, but nope, diddly squat.

handfulofcottonbuds · 14/02/2015 17:25

Thank you daisy Thanks

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daisychain01 · 14/02/2015 19:12

Aw handful, I've read all your threads over such a long time! Flowers onwards and upwards x

Granville - his loss, sad to say.

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sillymillyb · 14/02/2015 19:37

Fattymc that was me 3 years ago too, my son has been bouncing around all day saying "happy Valentine's mama, I kiss you!" Then licking my bloody cheek and giggling. It gets pretty awesome quite quickly, I promise Smile

Happy Valentine's Day everyone! Thanks

Busybusybust · 14/02/2015 20:30

I was widowed 20 years ago. V Day no longer bothers me. Today 3 of my 4 children have contacted me to wish me a Happy Valentine's Day! No. 4. Is abroad ATM. That's what is important to me!

FrancesNiadova · 14/02/2015 21:28

Thanks Daisychain.
I miscarried our 1st baby at 4 months 18 years ago. DH & I just exchange a card. Even now, all these years & 2 lovely sons later, we still don't feel like celebrating the day.
Thanks again, it was a lovely thought -x--

FrancesNiadova · 14/02/2015 21:28

Sending g big hugs & lots of love busybusy Flowers