My dp and I have been together for a year. Things were going well, its been a bit rocky, at the start I had to deal with his jealousy and sometimes he has anger problems. Things have been good recently though and he told me he wanted a future with me and my daughter and we had talk of moving in together at some point.
This last week hes suddenly gone cold and kept cancelling or pushing the days back of when he would come over. He's now told me he been thinking for a while about not being with me, he wants to be single but still see me. I asked him if this means he wants to sleep with other people and practically have his pie and eat it too but he refused and said its about him going clubbing, going a bit crazy and doing what he wants before settling down. He says hes not made a final decision and wants a nice weekend with me and then he will come back with what he decides. He was supposed to come tonight but cancelled last minute.
This is a giant blow to me, I'm agoraphobic and he's become the only person I see these days so I just feel so panicked. I love him, want to do anything to keep him around and it doesn't help that I have no support around me. I've had the 'I thought I wanted this but I don't' speech twice now, it was said to me by my daughters father when he left (I wasn't agoraphobic then, its only been the last 8/9 months). I feel like me and my dd have been used as some kind of practice family for 2 men who have then decided its not for them.
What ways can I get through this? Has anyone had the situation where their partner has said similar things but decided to stay? What happens then, do you feel differently about them?