I think I know the answer to this but worth a try!
Is there anyway that my stbx can be coerced into paying some support for over 18 not in education children? Mine can not afford to house themselves, even the one in a good job and the other is unemployed. STBX also wants to stop my maintenance asap although I am going to fight that so I can support the children.
I asked him how they were supposed to live without parental support, having reminded him he lived with his parents until 25. He said he could not be forced to contribute and neither could I. Therefore, it is my choice to live with them and he should not have to contribute towards that.
We are about to start mediation having obtained decree nisi a year ago (he moved out nearly two years ago) and he has not come up with anything constructive at all in response to my Lawyers' letters. He now has a baby on the way and says he wants this sorted but seems reluctant to put any effort in...
There are no liquid assets, smallish pension, about 20K of equity in house, he earns well, until this quarter when his earnings have dropped significantly hmm, about five times my salary. So everything will hinge on spousal for the moment, my scary does not cover rent around here by quite some margin. I have a third child still doing GSCEs and work locally so moving is not an option at present.
Any suggestions? I have a feeling I am well and truly fucked. As form this month instead of paying what was agreed per month he has dropped it by £1400. I can't manage on this. This is calculated on his new 'fair' way of working it out he has decreed. He is pushing me into panicking I think, and doing a good job.
It is so unfair that I can not live with my boys as long as they want to live with me simply because he had sex without contraception with a woman who told me SIX years ago that she wanted his babies...
I posted in legal but no response - hoping the increased traffic here will help.I am feeling a bit desperate. 