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im 21 my dp is 28

40 replies

nowomennocry15 · 09/02/2015 08:21

my family have said to me to leave the guy im with just because of our age gap, they treat him like hes a pedophile, anyone else have anything like this

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Pagwatch · 09/02/2015 08:28

Your family are daft.
I married DH when I was 27 and he was 21.
I would guess your family just don't like him.

timelord1912 · 09/02/2015 08:33

i get called a fat f**k from my fiancée brother, im also pretty sure he would like to bury me in ground, taken drugs most of his life so is abit of a knob upstairs

AnyFucker · 09/02/2015 08:35

err. ..

Pagwatch · 09/02/2015 08:39

[uber boggle]

LemonBreeland · 09/02/2015 08:41

I met DH when I was 21 and he was 30. My Mum was a little concerned bit once she met him she was fine. We have been together almost 17 years now.

HairyOrk · 09/02/2015 08:42

If you were 17 and he was 24 then it'd be different, but things change once you hit 18 and then again at 21.

borisgudanov · 09/02/2015 08:46

It's none of their business. It's not even as if they've got sensible reasons for being concerned. Tell them to fuck off.

Or they can go and post in AIBU if they like and get their bollocks toasted.

Rebecca2014 · 09/02/2015 08:47

Are you very immature for your age?

BauerTime · 09/02/2015 08:49

I had a relationship with this age gap when I was 22 and he was 29. I can honestly say that I was more mature than he was Grin

But seriously you are an adult, not a child and it's not that big an age gap.

Do you feel like that gap is an issue? TBH when I look back on my relationship with this age gap I don't think that mattered. But when I was 29 I can't imagine that I'd have had a lot in common with a 21 year old man and wouldn't have entered into such a relationship. It's all subjective.

Ludoole · 09/02/2015 09:09

I was 18 and my ex was 35. Nobody had a problem with it. We lasted 14 years and had 2 beautiful sons.

fabuleux · 09/02/2015 09:25

I was 17 and my boyfriend was 28! We were together 10 years had 1 dc together, and it wasn't the age gap that ended us.

Floralnomad · 09/02/2015 09:32

My dh and I have a 7 yr age gap , we started going out when I was 18 - we have been married 25 yrs now - tell your family to mind their own business .

SleeplessinUlanBator · 09/02/2015 10:12

I am sorry but if my 18 year old niece rocked up with a 35 year old bloke on her arm I would consider him a bit of a creep, emotionally immature and to be honest would treat his motivations with total suspicion. Seriously, what kind of guy that age goes chasing after teenagers.

firesidechat · 09/02/2015 10:16

What age gap would that be? There is the same gap between my husband and I and I've never given it a moments thought or had a comment from anyone in 30 years.

Your family are being ridiculous.

seanbonbon · 09/02/2015 10:24

I was 19 when I met my now husband - he was 27
Raised a few eyebrows I'm sure but that was 19yrs ago. Now happily married ( most of the time!) with 3 children Smile
I'm now 38 and he's 45 - age gap seems non-existent ! Not sure whether it's because he feels younger or I feel older Wink
I think your family are being a little hysterical tbh

Squitten · 09/02/2015 10:49

I'm 32 next month. DH is 38. Doesn't feel like a gap at all.

As long as you are on the same page with your life choices, it's irrelevant

Tea1Sugar · 09/02/2015 11:14

I met dp when I was 23 and he was 31. My parents were delighted there was hope of him not being an immature f*ckwit. We're now 26 and 34, own a home and have a baby. It's your life, live it!

ScooseIsLoose · 09/02/2015 11:38

I was 22 and dh 31 when we met I don't notice the gap at all in the more mature one by far!

Endler32 · 09/02/2015 11:49

I'm 32 and my dh is 46, a few people made comments when we got together but this just made me want to be with him more, ignore what people say, the age gap is tiny and I think they are just looking for an excuse to say 'he's not suitable', maybe they don't like him? Or they just think you are not suited? Either way, they should but out.

Pandora37 · 09/02/2015 11:50

What?! 21 and 28 isn't an age gap! I know someone who at 21 married a man in their 40s! Now that I could understand parents being concerned about but not a 28 year old.

CogitoErgoSometimes · 09/02/2015 15:56

Are your family normally unpleasant? Do they generally set out to spoil your day? Or are they usually quite loving? If they are awkward types on a regular basis, they can be ignored. If they are normally kind and have your best interests at heart, I would wonder if it's his age they are objecting to or something they don't like about his personality.

CatThiefKeith · 09/02/2015 16:26

Dh was 24 when we met. 25 when we married, 26 when dd was born, and is 30 in a few weeks.

I am 42 this year Smile

BuzzardBird · 09/02/2015 16:29

They think he has an obsession with feet? Sorry being flippant, assume you are not in UK?

Nothing wrong with that age gap, suggest your family purchase a dictionary.

trulybadlydeeply · 09/02/2015 16:33

I honestly don't think that's an age gap. Why on earth would your family treat him like a paedophile - if he was, he wouldn't be interested in a 21 year old grown woman, would he? If you love each other, respect each other and treat each other well, then enjoy your relationship and tell your family to stop being so disrespectful

DH and I have a 14 year age gap, and it rarely crosses our minds.

CogitoErgoSometimes · 09/02/2015 16:54

As the age gap is not ridiculously big, that's what makes me think there is something else they don't like about him.

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