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im 21 my dp is 28

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nowomennocry15 · 09/02/2015 08:21

my family have said to me to leave the guy im with just because of our age gap, they treat him like hes a pedophile, anyone else have anything like this

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Vivacia · 09/02/2015 17:01

Perhaps the OP is a less mature 21 year old?

BathTangle · 09/02/2015 17:01

When I was 21 I went out with a guy of 28, we stayed together 2.5 years. It wasn't the age gap itself that caused us to break up, although he was ready to get married and I wasn't, it was because I didn't want to be with him. 4 months after we split (so when I was 23) I met my now DH, who is 8 years older than me. I knew straight away I wanted to marry him....

GoatsDoRoam · 09/02/2015 17:01

Was going to ask same as Cogito: is it in fact something about his personality or behaviour that your family object to?

Hurr1cane · 09/02/2015 17:10

I'm 26, DP is 40.

Can't say anyones even noticed, they don't ask his age.

TinkerBlue · 09/02/2015 17:20

When I was 18 I met my exP who was, at that time, 36. We were together for nearly 8 years and when I look back at that time now it gives me the creeps. I feel like I was preyed on and became a trophy.
That said, there is a 10 year age gap between me and "the current Mr. Tink" it isn't the age gap that is creepy - it is my own level of immaturity at that age and the weird relationship that culminated with a much older man.
I wish my parents had at least started a conversation with me about this - but my thinking that they thought it was fine, made me think it must be. In hindsight, I was far too immature to get into a serious relationship, esp. with a man so much older. I wish I'd spent that time going on dates with boys of my own age.
OP, ime its very flattering to get attention from older men but late teens early 20's is a great time to date and have fun with your friends. Maybe you are much more grown up than I was at that age though?

HearCerseiRoar · 10/02/2015 13:26

Bloody hell, there's an gap of 31 years between me and my DP...my family were a bit iffy at first but they love him now Smile

gamerchick · 10/02/2015 13:32

You do like to ask questions OP.

Anyhoo that isn't a big age gap.

BlueberryWafer · 10/02/2015 13:32

That's barely an age gap! I'm 22 and my partner is 30. My best friend is 21 and her partner is 42. They are a lovely couple and have a gorgeous 13 month old. Nothing wrong with an age gap if they are happy - no one else's business!

googoodolly · 10/02/2015 14:32

I'm 26 and DP is 32, so same age gap as you. He was 30 and I was 24 when we got together and nobody batted an eyelid.

If you're happy, it doesn't matter what everyone else thinks! Smile

SmillasSenseOfSnow · 10/02/2015 14:42

31 years...? Hmm

Lj8893 · 10/02/2015 14:47

I don't get all this age gap nonsense (providing its not illegal!) dp is 5 years younger than me and definitely the more mature one in the relationship!

gemdrop84 · 10/02/2015 16:42

Same age gap as me and my dh, met when I was 21 and he was 28. I'm now 30, he's 37 and happily married with two dc. Can't see the problem and I think your family have issues!!

HearCerseiRoar · 10/02/2015 17:14

Yes Smillas, 31 years. We're both adults, very happy together, getting married later this year.

jnl0612 · 10/02/2015 17:26

I'm 34 and my DH is 26 !! No big deal there

manaboutthemaison · 10/02/2015 21:51

7 years between me and Madame Maison, we've been together 16 years, works great being a tomboy, (albeit at 50 years of age)

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