What does your DH/DP do when you cry?

[FreakyFloss]

I am interested as I can't believe my Dp is the only one not to 'get' the whole thing?

strops, or hugs. Depending.

Usually puts his arms around me and tells me to stop been daft. He doesn't get deep just looks for a solution which is what blokes do!

I've had a shitty few days and have kept bursting into tears today - once on the way to B and Q. Dp 'Are you crying again?'
Me 'no'
'yes you are'

sob<
'Why are you upset now?'
'You know why'
'No I don't we are on our way to buy a door! Why does that make you cry?'

errrrr

same as qp - hugs or strops depending, but if i go into big big big sobs i get lots of cuddles and handed a bog roll!

nothing.

i kind of expect him to strop or give me a hard look (iykwim)!! But if i'm honest he usually surprises me and is quite nice - the thing with my dh is 90% of the time he is wonderful but the other 10% he is a complete tw*t - unluckily for him I seem to judge his overall behaviour on the 10% .

Why were you upset ff??

always hugs and sympathy. even if in the middle of an argument and i'm being a prat. he's very tender. i'm lucky.

like freakyfloss's dp

I was feeling sorry for myself really raggydoll and told Dp as such. He still couldn't understand why I was feeling sorry for myself while on the way to B and Q. They really are a different species aren't they?

Asked dp and he said he comforts me, but in actual fact he usually turns a blind eye and pretends nothings wrong.

Oh sweetheart

He needs a reality check. I wont ask if he feels sad too, i dont think we want to know that answer....

Its completely natural for you to be really really teary at the moment. If nothing else - your hormones will be upside down.

My DP gave me hugs when I was upset like this, and told me he loved me. It seemed a bit like platitudes but it was the thought behind those platitudes that was important.

ahhh - that lovely feeling of wallowing in self pity and then having a good cry - on and off all day if nessarcary - I do love those days - obviously not at the time but later when I've got it all out my system.

Men don't get it but I can't for the life of me think why - I know plenty who love a good sulk!!

Floss - dont do yourself down my love. You have had a miscarriage - "feeling sorry" for yourself really doesnt do justice to what you are going through.

With that and your broken hand.....i wouldnt say you were "feeling sorry for yourself" at all....

give him a swift kick in the bollocks and ask him why his eyes are watering so he knows how you are feeling.

Oh VVV its not only that. I managed to pull Ds's elbow out of its socket last night trying to stop him running off in the road. He gave me hell and was screaming at me in the street. He has apologised but I can't forget the words. Ds is fine now but the thing of hurting your baby breaks your heart doesn't it? I think he was sad about loosing baby - was in denial in a way to start off with.

sorry ff - jusr read vv's post and realised you've had some bad news... hugs and hope I havent offended you.

Not at all RD - I was just genuinely baffled by the fact Dp thinks you should only be upset at an appropriate time and wondered if they were all like it!

Well, I suppose he was have said exactly the same if you hadnt have grabbed DS's arm and he had got run over. I think some people react in weird ways to shock and fright and I'm guessing he is that way.

I think you need to give yourself a break and, irrespective - give DP a kick in the nads

HOpe you feel better soon sweet xxx

DW doesn't cry much. if she does I put my arms round her, I think. And I want to "fix" whatever the problem is, which I suppose is typically male.

Thanks VVV. He hasn't been too bad about everything really. Just when one thing happens after another my resiliance (sp) is running out really and I am feeling really sore today.

Floss, this probably isnt the time or the place, but that last post spoke volumes.

"He hasn't been too bad"

What needs to happen for him to be "good"?

You are so so lovely. There's not a bad bone in your body. He doesnt know what he's got. He really doesn't.

Sorry VVV only just saw this. He has been quite 'good' about loosing the pregnancy. I think the thing is like I said he was cross last night about DS and it frightened him. He did aplogise, I know why he said it. The thing is he has never been the best with an upset woman. He dosen't know what to do. I think alot of men are like that. In his mind DS is fine - we have made up, pregnancy test on fri was negative and I was ok about it at the time. Ah I don't know. He is crap when I am upset.

Floss, I am so sorry to hear this.

if its to do with him crying doesnt phase him. the argument continues through the tears.

if i cry becuase of someone else - he is the biggest support - once even offering to don balaclava and " do over" someone from a london council who was very very very mean to me. of course he didn't! but ahhhh

if i cry just becuase i cry - he gives me a love and says "packet in you soft tart"

Oh FF when i had a miscarriage i would cry at the most ridiculous moments. Alright for days then it would come over me in the middle of Waitrose. Dh very good to start with, but if i had a good couple of weeks,why was i crying again? Ggrrrrr

xxxxxx

gets in a right mood and yells at me.

can't cope with crying at all, especially not hormonal crying