Originally it was me that wanted to marry. We've been engaged a year and have saved up £1000 towards a wedding. We plan to save another £1000 and marry in may next year.
The thing is whenever it comes to actually laying down some of the money I find an excuse to "just leave it a bit longer" and I think it's because I'm not sure I want to marry him anymore. Furthermore, I'm thinking I need the money we have saved to leave him.
I don't know what has happened but all we seem to do is argue, he speaks to me like shit and doesn't take on board anything I say. Instead he talks over me, tells me I'm being silly/unreasonable punishes me with days of silent treatment.
Last week was a prime example. Basically he's supposed to be organising for his kids to come on the friday before valentines day instead of the usual saturday so we can spend valentines day alone with no kids (his kids are over the age of 18 so it's not like they're little ones that need routine.) He kept saying he'd "sort it". Thing is I needed to arrange work around this so needed certainty either way so I knew what to do about work.
Anyway after his kids left last sunday I said to him "are you going to tell them about that friday sooner rather than later so it's not all last minute?" (I said it nicer than it sounds here) and he exploded with
"I'VE TOLD THEM FOR FUCKS SAKE!! THEY KNOW ALRIGHT!!! FOR FUCKS SAKE IVE NEVER KNOWN ANYONE BANG ON ABOUT SOMETHING LIKE YOU DO!! JUST FUCKING SHUT UP ABOUT IT!!!" 
I replied that most normal people would have let me know if it had been arranged, especially as he knew I was waiting to hear about it and so he snapped "RIGHT THAT'S IT, YOU'VE PISSED ME OFF, I'M NOT TALKING TO YOU NOW!"
"I'm not talking to you" ???? isn't that what kids say? and he didn't talk to me for the following two days. It's ridiculous. Adults don't talk to each other like that surely?
What was wrong with a simple "yeah I've sorted it, meant to tell you earlier".
Or even if I HAD pissed him off wouldn't a more normal reaction be something like "I've sorted it but to be honest i'm getting a bit fed up of you mentioning it."
Why all the abuse and nastyness? tell me it's not normal, please ?