We do drinkers resent non drinkers?

[violeta45]

I am 39 and I don't drink, never have beyond the odd experiment in my late teens and twenties becuase I don't like the taste or enjoy the feeling of being drunk it just always makes me feel seedy and grubby and to be honest I just don't understand why anyone enjoys it but of course different strokes. Same goes for smoking and drugs it was just never for me, I prefer a nice cup of tea.

The issue is even now at my age the fact I don't drink seems to be an issue when I socialise and meet new people. I find a lot of men and women in my age group still drink a lot of booze and when they are drinking (most social events) they don't have much time for a non drinker or they assume I have perviously had a drinking problem. I don't mind anyone having a drink but its a bit annoying when I am regarded as the problem for not drinking rather than those who do. The truth is I think a lot of people, nice middle class professional men and women have borderline drink problems. I certainly am aware of at least a couple of marriges held together by the 2 or 3 bottles of wine they get through most nights. I can hardly believe it is socially acceptable for people to drink so much when smokers and fat people are treated like pariahs!

If anything many drinkers have a problem not me so why do they make a big deal about it, making faces and comments when I'm not boozing with them either that or trying to pressure me into drinking. I feel like giving up being sociable altogether!

I think it's a problem we have as a country too, the level of drinking seen as normal. Some people see drinking as the actual social life rather than something more incidental to their social life iyswim. I think it's only those who judge/criticise non drinkers who may have a problem with their own drinking, most people wouldn't mind either way. My own view (I drink occasionally) is if an evening's too boring to be on without drinking then it's too boring an evening to be on anyway.

lol as I said I'm the only none drinker really out of everyone. but I'm genuinely better without a drink.

I do have issues surrounding it. my mother was a functioning alcoholic. and when she was drunk she was mortifying, rambly, touchy feely, and over emotional.....I don't want to be like that. I've seen others get drunk like my dh and yes a hilarious drunk, and most of my friends are good natured drunks. those that aren't, the criers, argumentives, vommiters, I avoid inviting for drinks. I don't want a good time ruined.

but general good natured drinkers I don't judge at all. I enjoy their company and they mine.

well I assume they do, judging by the fact its always my house that they congregate at lol.

On a drinking night out I can't bear non drinkers as they will remember in detail every stupid utterance and face plant!

Each to their own!

MadeMan Doubt it. Someone, somewhere will have figures to show the chocolate cancels out the benefits of the booze. Sod's Law.

That's a shame Toby, I thought perhaps liqueurs could be the perfect double combination of dark chocolate and booze; both of which are supposed to be good for health in small amounts.

//strikes liqueurs off my superfoods list.

Being with a non drinker can make you feel a bit self conscious once you start talking nonsense and dancing like there's no one watching.

I admire non drinkers. I drink too much. If they are giving you a hard time it says more about their own issues.

I was teetotal for 4 years. From ttc first child to second child being one. I was breastfeeding for four years drinking wasnt on the agenda. On nights out friends (women in their 30s) would try to pressure me to drink! I didnt want to drink. Why did it matter to them?