Messaging other women.

[Superwomansuglysister]

This morning I went to log into Facebook messenger on the iPad i share with dp but he hadn't logged off.
I saw loads of messages to and from women with him saying that he wants to meet them, one in particular we see out on a regular basis who pointed out that whenever dhe sees him we are together and he told her where not and he can do what he likes.
We have been together two years and are moving in together next week.
Wwyd?

When I found my SO on a sleazy dating site, that he had paid to send messages I flipping dumped him. My God he was horrified! I went NC straight away once I had told him I found him.

His big loss

Don't move in. If there are 'loads' of messages the likelihood is he's already cheated on you IRL. Screen shot the messages, pack your bags, change his FB status to one of the suggestions upthread and go and leave him and his messed up mind.

If you talk to him he will play it down.

Sorry you are going through it. Running away now will be painful, but much less painful than living a lie and having to split when there may be DC involved.

You are in a relationship, meaning that you should be the only woman on his mind. Instead he dismisses you to others. If you think that is all you're worth, then it's even more important you get away from him and rediscover your self-worth.

Good luck!

I don't have Facebook, but is there any chance of updating his status to "dumped because I'm a cheating fuckwit" and then change his password so he can't take it down immediately. I have no idea what level of customisation is possible TBH.

Sorry for not replying sooner I needed to get a few things straight in my head.

I spoke to him last night and yes he played it down saying it was just banter and he would never cheat on me and of course he's sorry.
I told him that it was unacceptable behaviour and that I couldn't be with someone who Denys me so blatantly.
Unfortunately I have no choice but to move as the tenancy has ended on the flat I'm in now and the landlord has new tenants already so I will be moving by myself until I figure out where to go from here.
I'm still reeling over what has happened and feel utterly betrayed I font understand how anyone can say they love you then lie to your fave, thank you all.

I'm so sorry for your pain super

You are doing the right thing by you and that is what counts, you will heal in time and you will go on to meet someone that doesn't lie and cheat as a matter of course.

Stay strong and be kind to yourself, I hope that you have support irl and that your friends will rally around to keep you busy.

Good luck on your move and to your future.

Well done! That's the first and most painful step on the way to your happiness. From here onwards it will get easier.

I'm sorry you're going through this, but I really think you did the right thing.