I'm going to the police this morning, bricking it.

[weedinthepool]

I've been named as a witness in a historical sexual abuse case. I've decided to take this opportunity to tell the police that the abuser I saw abusing the child in the above case also abused me as a child. He is a member of my family & whilst I don't have contact with that side of the family any longer my parents are not going to be happy. I can already hear my dad saying 'why are you dragging up the past?'

I saw my abuser just before Christmas with 2 small female children & I just can not deal with the thought that he might be abusing them too. I'm doing the right thing aren't I? I don't even know what to tell the police, I've just got a bunch of disjointed, dark memories and I don't expect them to do anything but I want them to look into the contact he has with those little girls.

I'm going to take the dc's to school and go. I will go through the door. I will

Well done.

I hope that the bravery you've found today will extend to you letting your parents know exactly how their attitude has harmed you... in your NC letter.

You know they will damage YOUR dc too, don't you?

Thank you for protecting children now and in the future.

daisy thank you for sharing your story. It helps to know that other people's parents also deal with it badly. I hope the impact of your abuse hasn't wrecked your life, you sound so strong.

Yes I am trying NC with my parents at the moment. I had another thread re their grand parenting (it has been about as difficult as their parenting). I'm not a bad mother, I know I'm not, it is the one thing I will not accept because I am constantly working on making my children as safe and as loved as possible. I left my abusive marriage for them and even though I'm now a single mum to the three of them and it has been incredibly hard they are brilliant & worth that struggle.

I have had counselling, cbt & emdr re the abuse. It all helped for a while but then incidents happened to trigger flashbacks. I am on a waiting list at rape crisis (I've was sexually assaulted by my abusive stbxh last year) and have an appointment on Fri with them. I definitely need to heal. It's all so messy. Yes yes to the poster cailin ?? Who said about it being an opportunity to be heard. My abuse is known to that side of the family but has been dismissed and minimised because it was the eldest brothers son who abused us. The police are driving this now, not me though so I might be blamed but I've just told the truth. I have to let the truth lead the way now.

weed well done, you've been really brave
please continue

do you think you should formally report your dad to the police, sounds like he knew what was happening
and his guilt is trying to make you feel bad and keep quiet

Well done for being strong OP and thinking of those little girls.