I want to contact him what should I put in a text msg to him?

[rubynoodles37]

Basically long story short. I live in the same village as my parents , their next door neighbour is a single guy the same age as me. He has lived there for about 7 years. I walk my dog around the village every day and he would drive by most days and we would wave and smile etc then 18 months ago out of the blue he stopped and chatted. We got on really well and are quite similar people ie bit shy have slight social anxiety etc. Anyhow, after that our paths would cross about once a week and we would often have a good hour long chat. However I havent seen him now for 2 months ive seen him whilst Ive been driving and he always waves and smiles but our paths just
dont seem to cross anymore. Btw I am happily married my husband knows I chat to this guy and it is just friendship im after but I do miss his chats and was hoping we could have been good mates! Im thinking of texting him a little friendly text but not sure what to write im not good at that sort of thing I dont want it to look like im after anything other than friendship but on the other hand I dont want it too casual. Also im a very sensitive kind of person and ive held back txting him incase he doesnt respond or is curt/offish etc. Just need some advise really how would you word the text in this sort of circumstance? Thanks

They are pissed off simply because she said 'I am happily married my husband knows I chat to this guy and it is just friendship im after...' so they posted accordingly to advise on how to get in touch with him and then it turns out that OP was not being entirely truthful.

Happens all the time on mn and posters just think, shit it's another one of those threads and I've wasted my time. Posters are real people who take the time to post to help people who have asked for advice so it's entirely understandable that they would be pissed off with an OP who wastes their time.

We all learn something from these posts., whether they are genuine or not.
Being apply married doesn't stop you having feelings for someone else.
A couple of minutes of your life spent replying to a post is not tantamount to any genuine loss.
I suggest you join another forum if you are so hacked off.

It doesn't seem to me that OP has wasted people's time. She has gained insight into the workings of her own mind from this thread. It takes time to think things through honestly with oneself, and often input from others is needed to realise what's going on.

Fairenuff the OP hasn't wasted anyone's time. If people think she has and feel annoyed then I don't think they are the best people to try and advise anyone.

Don't people enjoy having acquaintances any more?

I would text "dh and I are heading to the local pub Friday night and wondered if you'd like to join us. Would be fab to chat properly."

By making it an invite from you and dh it's clearly a friend thing and nothing more.

Love it when people clearly haven't RTFT.

It was 1 am - no I didn't read the full thread

^Being apply married doesn't stop you having feelings for someone else.
A couple of minutes of your life spent replying to a post is not tantamount to any genuine loss.^
I suggest you join another forum if you are so hacked off.

No-one had a problem with her having feelings for the man, Blue, it was the fact that she initially said that she didn't.

I didn't say it was a genuine loss of time, I said that posters were genuinely pissed off at her for not being honest in her OP.

I am not hacked off. Others posters were and you posted to say give the OP a break. I was just pointing out that posters had a reason to be pissed off with her because she lied in her OP and misled them.

If she had said from the start that she had feelings for the man, they would have responded differently. They were just pissed off with being messed around and that's perfectly understandable.