Feeling quite low to be honest with DW

[dadtryinghisbest]

Not sure what I'm trying to achieve with this post. Perhaps I'm just getting things off my chest, perhaps I'm hoping for lots of sympathy, perhaps I really want someone to tell me the below is just normal...

Have three young children with my long term wife. We had them late, and it's been challenging for us all. We are in a good place now, but a few years ago we were in the eye of the storm so to speak....trying to move house, and everything related to this, as well as having children. Everyone tried their best, and we've eventually come out good.

However I've discovered that my DW - whom I love so much it hurts, and whom I desperately want to be accepted by - has been low-level griping about me to a bunch of women via social media. They talk about their husbands reasonably negatively, and share intimate information...

During this time I have been working so hard, I have let all my friends go - and certainly would feel terrible anyhow talking to others about my DW negatively...

So now I suddenly feel really really low, and lonely. It feels like it's me against a group of women.....and I feel I'm slightly estranged from my DW..

I remember when in my first ante-natal group the conversation turning to how men might expect their other half to get angry with them during labour (which shocked me)...and to be honest it feels like it's been that way ever since...

To summarise, I felt we were a close couple,...and suddenly it feels like I've been regarded as the enemy these past few years...

Not sure how seriously to take this...

What a nasty bunch most of you are. Click report if you don't think its real. Oh and AF? You really surprised me on this one. Not in a good way.
I love the double standards on MN. Clearly he isn't doing enough housework...

True U2. People need to be careful. If they think it's a wind up best say nothing at all and the thread will die a natural death.
There is a certain amout of misandry on these threads.

What I find constantly "surprising" is the amount of credulity on these kinds of threads.

I think it would be helpful if the OP came back, but can understand why he may not.
Ah well.

'amount' that is....don't want to get attacked for my bad spelling.
Anyway, the OP has gone and either it was a wind up (strange thing to do) or he felt even worse reading some of the insults hurled at him.

"insults"

"hurled"

give over

Or he read the responses, and went to have a talk with his wife and sorted it all out.

Or he read the responses, and went to have a talk with his wife and sorted it all out.

Yes.
That'll be it.

I am a card-carrying optimist too, Sparkling.

Hopefully Spark.
AF, have a think before you post in future. Your so called advice was not helpful this time.

It's definitely possible that a grown up adult man is able to do that I think AF.

Some people are very angry and bitter. They rage about everything and nothing. Someone comes on here to seek advice and gets abused. Why? I think the gender of the OP has something to do with it.

This is a good example of why I do not tell people i use MN. Sad as in the early years there was never the risk of horrible, useless, unhelpful and rude posts. People really need to sift through the horrid postings all too often now.
I was thinking to post something that i thought might be an insight for the OP but what's the use now as OP unlikely to return and who can blame him.

I am perfectly convinced that is a possible scenario, SB. In fact, I would expect nothing less

And also that anyone getting called "wet" might think they had a point when he read back his Op.

And that he might feel patronised by all these women jumping to his defence like he is some kind of special snowflake

Have a think about that eh, bab ?

Abused? I think that's a bit strong. Adult male seeks advice on a predominantly adult female parenting website.

All manner of responses received.

Man then makes a decision. The End.

I don't think you are my dh, but just in case you are, my advice to you would be improve your integrity, basically put "do what you say you are going to do when you say you're going to do it" so stop promising to do things you have no time it even inclination or intention of doing, accept that there are times when it would be better to pay someone (painter and decorator for example) to do this's do realise that I do love you very much, I don't mind that you aren't good at diy, just accept it and pay someone else to do it!

Well, there are 3 possible scenarios, I can see:

1. The OP is genuine and has been 'scared off'.
2. The OP is genuine and has taken the offered advice including the robust stuff to heart and is clearing the air with his DW.
3. The OP is hairy-handed/a school boy/writing a book/has too much time on their hands.

Like I said: ah well.

You are very easy to rise AF. Accept that your responses were ill thought. I don't care what gender the OP is. Give everyone the benefit of the doubt and don't be so quick to put them down.

Sparkling, v succinct.
I approve and agree

bab, you do it your way, I'll do it mine

as for "rising" it's not me chucking accusations of "misandry" around and deliberately goading other respondents

Go to bed AF, you sound tired.
You have been told off on this thread by others too, time to listen and take heed.
Night night.

'Told off'

How old are you babbityan? You aren't a moderator so myob.

I think this thread was a game.