Here goes, my first post!
He's a recently retired entrepreneur in his early 30’s. I’m a full-time worker. He has much, much more money than I do. We don’t share finances. We’ve been together nearly two years, but I’m not sure if we want the same from our relationship.
We don’t live together. We were looking at houses, until he recently, abruptly announced that he’s decided not to pursue this any further for the time being. If I want us to move in together, he says I have to get a new job as I’m not in an area he likes and he gets frustrated at how stressed I get with work.
There’s nothing physically stopping us from moving in together apart from him.
He says it would be unfair if he paid more than me, yet he lives in the lap of luxury doing whatever he wants all day whilst I work long hard hours for low pay. Which I think is unfair!
He seems to yearn for more freedom. Wanting nights out with his mates, now saying that he wants to go on holiday on his own as he doesn’t want to pay for both of us – even though it’s somewhere I would LOVE to go and we’ve been on holiday together a few times before.
He doesn’t want to meet my family and doesn’t invite me to meet his.
I’m open and tell him I want to get married one day, settle down blah.. I have history of PCO’s and Endometriosis so I do feel anxious about my fertility which he’s aware of. But he just seems to be moving so slowly with our relationship I don’t know what’s holding him back.
Am I being impatient or is it 'too little, too late' given how open I’ve been with him about what I want? I don't want him to resent me or have to convince him to do things he doesn't really want to do.
Is he putting on the breaks by not wanting to move in? How do I reconcile our vastly different lifestyles?
Excited to hear your thoughts, opinions and experiences.