rejected by OM

[lostoncemore]

NC for this.

So I have had intense feeling for a guy I work with for over a year now, a few months ago I told him how I felt. He told me he had a gf and that he was happy in his relationship and was not willing to put it in jeopardy. I am married and this is the only other guy I have had any kind of feelings for. So at first I thought it was because he was special or the one or that it meant something?

Now I am not sure, I am really confused, maybe it just meant that I needed to try harder with my marriage.

But maybe I should leave my husband I mean despite not have even touched him/brushed passed him I cant stop thinking about him... I feel awful.

Thank you Blue, I am ok. I haven't spoken to my husband yet as I want to be clear in my own head what it is I want to happen and how I feel. I think in all honesty I am not in love with him anymore and that makes me awful.

Oh and in answer to another poster me and DH and in our mid to late 30's we have discussed children but neither have a strong desire either way. It is not something that would easily happen given the number of times we have sex per year.

Time to call it a day with no hard feelings on either side?

Possibly. Whatever I decide I need to tell him somewhere away from the home. I need to talk to a friend or one of my sisters or mum IRL too I think just to get some more advice from people who know our relationship, if that makes sense.