ahh I'm so annoyed at DP and im not sure why

[justbatteringon]

My DP has decided he's going to compete in a local strong man competition he now has to travel to a neighbouring town to practice, it's a fiver a session. Now this morning his dad gave him a lift but he's getting the train home and then called to say he'll probably get a taxi from the train station A TAXI! He got one home last week and i had no issue cause it was pretty miserable last week but the sun is shining today ok its a little icy. There is also a bus service that I suggested he get I regularly walk everywhere to save on taxis and travel costs and I feel like he just fritters money away it drives me insane!
Anyway I just wanted a wee rant.

How far is it to walk?

I can see your point though - he's spending money to go elsewhere to practice for a competition that requires strength, and presumably fitness, yet he needs to take a taxi home? Something not quite right there! Send him with a bike next time. ;)

I guess work out how much it is costing overall (for the transport etc) and insist that he use his personal funds to pay for it.

If he has his own portion of money then he can do what he likes with it really. It's only if he is using common money that you get to tell him he's being a dick

I mean, I'm sure women buy lots of things with their own money that their partners find ridiculous - like a seventh mascara or a new pair of jeans even though they have other trousers, etc. If it's personal money, it's none of their business

It's 1.5 miles maybe slightly further but it's a walk I've made many times sometimes with a suitcase so it's not like I expect him to do something I wouldn't myself.

If it's coming out of his spending money, then it's his choice and I can't see why it matters to you how he gets there.

If it's family money, what are you going without in order to afford this?

There must be a back story to this?

I think I begrudge the whole lifestyle it's a very expensive habit to fund with things such as gym memberships protein powders and he has to have a lot of meat in his diet.
I feel like I'm always budgeting trying to save every penny using vouchers when I can. It just frustrates me.

Definitely make him get a bike then, but a normal one, not an all-singing-and-dancing mountain bike.
Save money on the gym AND on the taxis.

Right. So this has to become a situation where he has to be budgeting and scrimping in order to afford his hobby.

You haven't said if it's personal money or family money he's using for this.

I also found out he's started using steroids for this competition where is he getting the money from!
He only works part time he has his his wages as personal money.

But he still wants money from me when he runs out I just wish he could budget better

Does seem a bit daft for a bloke who goes to the gym to not manage a half hour walk from the station. It does imply that he's into the big muscle mary bodybuilding look rather than the fitness aspect

You mean to say that ALL his wages go on himself?

What the actual fuck?

Half of his wages should be going towards household expenses. Or whatever portion of your wages you contribute to the household.

Or are you the mug that uses your entire salary on the house with no personal money left over, whilst he does whatever he wants with his whole salary?

You need to sit down with him and demand he starts contributing to the household, again, whatever portion of your wages you put towards it.

What's left he can spend on himself, but no more.

If he doesn't have enough then that's his fucking problem if he wants to continue with such an expensive hobby.

Would this be a cocklodger situation OP?

It's more about lifting heavy things than cardio. I have suggested many times he gets a bike but he's not interested I think I just have to realise this is my problem.
I think I just find it hard because most of my spare cash goes on paying off or overdraft where as he can spend his on what he likes.

Do you realise how serious steroid use is? The way you said that sounded pretty glib OP.

I wouldn't stay with a drug user.

Tell him to not only get the bus but to pull it along with his teeth.

Why, why, why does he not contribute to the household?!!! Why on earth is he using steroids!!!!!! Outrageous.

Lol at BalloonSlayer.

He is being utterly unreasonable on more levels than I can count.

I think you probably have several major problems with this bloke, don't you ?

Yeah the steroids are a whole different thread.
Yeah I think your right I started putting some of his wages into my account before Christmas but stopped because he needed to get presents and things ,so I'm going to start doing that again and make him pay for half of the shopping and things I have stopped just taking my card out when we get top the till and making him pay for things I just feel like it's an up hill battle and everytime I cut something he's spending on something else

So you have a drug using cocklodger, what are you going to do about it?

OP, google 'steroid use family man' please.