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Snoring: How can you live with it?

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pinkrocker · 14/01/2015 09:18

I know this is not a particularly important subject to post in the Relationship topic, but I'm at the end of my patience, I don't know what to do or how to go on from here.
Just been away for weekend and despite earplugs DP's snoring has caused me to be teary, weepy and pathetic, I am just so tired.
He was after intimacy when he woke up and I just felt like punching him.
I don't know what cures there are?

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deste · 15/01/2015 18:22

I could have written your post word for word on Monday.

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pinkrocker · 15/01/2015 20:59

What did you do deste? did you tackle him?

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Granville72 · 16/01/2015 10:48

I sleep in the spare room. My OH snoring is awful, has been since a child he tells me which he finds amusing.

I don't find it amusing, and with a LO that doesn't sleep particularly well some nights either I just can't cope with lying awake all night listening to his snoring and constant fidgeting. Drives me mad, I'm a light sleeper as it is, don't want to listen to snoring or be bumped and bashed by his fidgeting or have the duvet constantly being snatched away.

AndTheBandPlayedOn · 16/01/2015 13:41

Separate rooms here too.
Dh denied he snored for years using the fact that I am a light sleeper against me.

The colonoscopy doctor told him he snored so loud he could hardly do the procedure. So it isn't just me saying this.
And then the teenagers gave him a shout down that "He does too" ...he wouldn't listen to me, but he acknowledged to them that maybe he did (still a bit denial).

And then one day...he finally admitted it...
Dh, myself, my teenage son and daughter (he was 15, she 13) and my toddler Dd2 were playing on the driveway. We were playing with Dd2 with animal sounds like "Mooo, what am I?" Ds then laid down on the driveway in a fetal position and started to snore very loudly and Dd2 ran up to him shouting "Daddy, Daddy!"

He went to the doctor, sleep clinic. They said lose weight, which he is still working on some years later (he has lost some and is not that overweight). He can still snore like a fog horn though. The nasal spray does work for him and he uses it on travel but doesn't like it for every night use.

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pinkrocker · 16/01/2015 20:23

Should I buy these?

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hollyisalovelyname · 16/01/2015 21:36

Sleeping tablets

MiddleAgedandConfused · 16/01/2015 22:53

I use Bose noise cancelling headphones over ear plugs. Cost a fortune but they make a huge difference. I keep reading the snoring threads hoping to see a miracle cure, but no luck so far.

payuktaxrichardbranson · 16/01/2015 23:25

Idocrazythings has your dh tried adjusting the pressure on his cpap machine and made sure the mask fits properly. If the pressure is too low he'll still snore because his air ways will still be closing.

ChameleonCircuit · 16/01/2015 23:31

DH has just got a CPAP machine. Before we saw the consultant, he had to wear a contraption that monitored his sleep. Apparently I have been living with the snoring equivalent of an opera singer going full blast a foot from my ear. The first night he had the machine, it was completely miraculous - have a look for the Epworth sleepiness questionnaire. That's the first step in seeing if it's sleep apnoea.

SexOrTaxRelief · 17/01/2015 10:12

It will be one of three things;

Alcohol
Weight
Medical problem

It will be quicker to tackle them in that order. And a separate bed is absolutely necessary for you until he makes progress.

deste · 17/01/2015 15:17

What did you do deste? did you tackle him?

We are on holiday and I seriously considered that he should get his own room but he cut down on the drinking and changed his sleeping position because I wasn't going to put up with it.

abbykins3 · 17/01/2015 19:27

Thanks payuktaxrichardbranson.

That's good to know.

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pinkrocker · 17/01/2015 23:16

I did ask him to buy the Boots stop snoring entire range but he hasn't. Nor has he made an appt to see his doctor.

So I won't be seeing him til he does (he lives 20 mins drive away so he wont be allowed couldn't just stop over.)

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Greta28 · 18/01/2015 03:00

Study in a sleep clinic and CPAP machine! I have finally started sharing a bed with my husband after 7 years.

He loves his CPAP machine now as he wakes up so refreshed and not groggy and always tired like he used to.

By the way, he is very fit physically so it wasn't the health and diet issues.

I too went through years of angst and screaming matches - going on holiday was a no no as we could never sleep in the same room.

Please make him go to the sleep clinic, it'll change your life..

Granville72 · 18/01/2015 14:29

Evidently OH is fed up with me sleeping in a separate room and I should move back to sharing a bed with him

Are you going to see the docs then about your snoring? No, didn't think so.

CheersMedea · 18/01/2015 14:29

pinkrocker

Try the wax one then. Some people find that wax ones are more "sound proofy" as you can mould them to your ear shape.

With the foam ones, I found boots work the best for me. you have to roll/squish them down really tight so they are long and thin and squished and insert then them into your ear.

Then and this is important hold your index finger against the end of it to keep it gently pushed in to the ear canal as it expands back to its shape. You have to do this for much longer than you would think - think a minute or so to a couple of minutes rather than a few seconds. The effect is that it keeps the plug in place as it expands to fit your ear canal and that whole effect keeps it in place.

If you don't hold it down into the ear canal as it expands it partially slips out and doesn't give a good seal.

Having said all of that, I would try wax ones too for you.

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pinkrocker · 18/01/2015 17:23

Ooo oh thanks *CheersMedea" I was perhaps not holding them in long enough!!!

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DameSquashalot · 23/12/2019 01:27

I know it's an old thread, bit I just need to let off steam..DH sores pretty much every night..He refuses to see the doctor or do anything else about it.

Yet again I'm unable to sleep because of the noise. I've tried earplugs, but they fall out and they magnify sounds inside my head like swallowing etc.

I'm sick of being so tired during the day that I fall asleep/can't function.

It is driving me insane!

CrazyMum40 · 23/12/2019 06:59

I can't sleep in bed with my boyfriend because of him snoring and farting and moving scratching his ass and you know where it got me? Addicted to zopiclone which I've now had to take every night now my body got used to them, even if I'm not in bed with him, they don't work now so need to try something new tonight

He said I should try earplugs but you're right they're horrible it feels like I'm sticking my fingers in my ears like I can hear my own brain,

He said I need to go to CBT to help my sleep so we can sleep in the same bed,
but now even before he snores I get a fast heart knowing he could any minute, I have a sleep phobia about it all

I understand where you are coming from it's a bloody nightmare

Zzzz19 · 23/12/2019 07:26

Craxymum- have you no spare room? That would drive me mad being next to someone like that! In fact I’d be considering a new model!

CrazyMum40 · 23/12/2019 10:11

We don't live together thank fuck, I can only let him stay or stay at his once a week or so

Don't know how I'll ever sleep in bed with him without knocking myself the fuck out

CandyFlossSkies · 23/12/2019 12:29

Separate rooms, 3M E-A-R Classic earplugs or medical advice.

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