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Still being funny

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jl1983 · 12/01/2015 21:45

Fed up guys... The guy who i snogged from work is still being funny despite fact I've been off 3 wks :(

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JaneFonda · 12/01/2015 21:48

I've seen your other threads - really, it's time to get over this and move on. He's obviously not interested, and for your own sanity you need to forget it ever happened.

GlitteryLipgloss · 12/01/2015 21:51

It was just a snog. Thank god nothing more!

keep busy and forget about him. He isn't interested! Thanks

GilbertBlytheWouldGetIt · 12/01/2015 21:52

Oh definitely. You need to let it go.

GilbertBlytheWouldGetIt · 12/01/2015 21:53

3rd thread on it though, you won't get any different answers.

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jl1983 · 12/01/2015 22:11

I have its just the fact he's not the same as he was we worked together for a yr

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Only1scoop · 12/01/2015 22:12

Perhaps he finds you a little intense

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jl1983 · 12/01/2015 22:16

I'm v easy going haven't bought but up yet he hasn't joked with me like he used to and want it just to go no to norn

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Shakey1500 · 12/01/2015 22:16

Perhaps he's not the same because you've snogged.

All that lust building up surreptitiously, flirting (I assume, not read any other threads, but easy to glean/gather), got down to the snog aaaannnd FLOP. No fireworks as expected on his part, bit gutting, time wasted and he's moved on.

Betrayedbutsurvived · 12/01/2015 22:20

What shakey said

SelfLoathing · 12/01/2015 22:21

Is this this guy you talked about on this thread?:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2264037-Eek-what-do-I-do

If so, it's pretty clear by now, he's not interested and it was a drunken snog.

Either he's embarrassed and wants to forget it or he's fearing you are over invested (which judging by you posts may not be far off) or a combination of both.

Ultimately, its going nowhere so forget it, write it off as an alcohol fueled fun night and mooooooooooove along.

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jl1983 · 12/01/2015 22:25

Erm so what we kissed I thought at least we could go bk to the what it used to b with the banter etc

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QueenBean · 12/01/2015 22:28

OP, let it go, he's not interested and is embarrassed by what's happened.

Just be normal with him. And move on, he's not romantically interested in you

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jl1983 · 12/01/2015 22:29

I have its him that is acting awkward

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Shakey1500 · 12/01/2015 22:33

Yep, agree he was tipsy/drunk, is embarrassed and probably regrets the snog.

Unless you ask him outright why he's being funny, you're not going to get any other answers. But don't do that as you'll appear unhinged.

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jl1983 · 12/01/2015 22:37

Fair enough just wish it went bk to how it was rather than not bantering with me at all

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noitsbecky · 12/01/2015 22:38

You're being very intense about this. He can obviously sense that, and is being distance on purpose.

AtrociousCircumstance · 12/01/2015 22:39

He doesn't want to encourage you.

Shakey1500 · 12/01/2015 22:40

Just be polite and professional with him. Try not to let your feelings about it show.

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jl1983 · 12/01/2015 22:42

How can he encourage me when he was the one that imitated it

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Shakey1500 · 12/01/2015 22:43

He doesn't want to encourage you now. Because of the regret, embarrassment etc

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jl1983 · 12/01/2015 22:46

What so the fact he joked with me for over a year all gone out the window and can't get friendship bk

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GilbertBlytheWouldGetIt · 12/01/2015 22:46

Is this the first time you've snogged someone?
Forget about it, you'll feel much better. Delete his number and stop trying to have 'banter'. It's not happening.

noitsbecky · 12/01/2015 22:47

What so the fact he joked with me for over a year all gone out the window and can't get friendship bk

Yes. I don't think he wants the friendship back.

noitsbecky · 12/01/2015 22:47

You can't force someone to be your friend.

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jl1983 · 12/01/2015 22:48

Why's that we got on great before he'd come over talk to me make a joke bout stuff now there's none of that ??

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