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Still being funny

50 replies

jl1983 · 12/01/2015 21:45

Fed up guys... The guy who i snogged from work is still being funny despite fact I've been off 3 wks :(

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noitsbecky · 12/01/2015 22:49

Why's that we got on great before he'd come over talk to me make a joke bout stuff now there's none of that

Because he kissed you, didn't like it and wants to pretend you don't exist!

Christ, have you never snogged someone, realised it was a mistake and wanted to bury your head in the sand?

GilbertBlytheWouldGetIt · 12/01/2015 22:49

Because he thinks you want to be his girlfriend.

And he doesn't want to be your boyfriend.

He doesn't you to think he wants to be your boyfriend.

GilbertBlytheWouldGetIt · 12/01/2015 22:50

he doesn't want* you to think he wants to be your boyfriend.

Stripyhoglets · 12/01/2015 22:51

Because he doesn't want to give you the impression it's ever going to end up in a snog again.

WhatsGoingOnEh · 12/01/2015 22:53

Because he wasn't bantering with you before, he was FLIRTING with you.

I'm afraid his friendliness before wasn't genuine, it was just to get a snog (or more) out of you. Now he doesn't want a snog anymore, he's stopped being friendly. These days, he's deliberately NOT flirting.

ObviousneedtoNC · 12/01/2015 22:54

Get a grip. You are going to make yourself look a prize tit otherwise.

Shakey1500 · 12/01/2015 22:55

You got on great before because you were BOTH flirting with each other.

Then you snogged. Now he's embarrassed and doesn't want anything else to happen. So he's being funny and awkward because people are sometimes crap at things like this.

You've probably made it obvious you're wondering why he's being like that. Which makes it more awkward for him.

There will be NO more banter. It will probably NEVER be like it was before.

Glastokitty · 12/01/2015 22:58

My god talk about being over-invested. It was a snog, not a bloody wedding! You really need to drop it now, if the guy is getting half the unhinged vibes we can see, no wonder he isn't talking to you!

LadyLuck10 · 12/01/2015 22:59

You probably scared him with all this obsessing over him. He's probably noticed it too and trying to forget it happened. Just leave it now, you're embarrassing yourself.

Original poster
jl1983 · 12/01/2015 23:00

It's funny he initiated it yet he's one being funny... We'd been getting on great for a whole year

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PatMullins · 12/01/2015 23:03

Please just...let it go

Shakey1500 · 12/01/2015 23:04

But it doesn't matter that he initiated it does it? It happened, didn't work out and (whatever it was) is over.

You can go round and round in circles in your mind, analysing each and every thing he did before, during and after. But it WILL NOT change how things are NOW will it?

So what you are doing is a complete waste of time and energy.

zzzzz · 12/01/2015 23:06

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noitsbecky · 12/01/2015 23:07
Flimflammer · 12/01/2015 23:09

OP why dont you google "Joanne01", she has been writing about scenarios like this for years and received some very helpful advice from the widest possible sample of humanity. There is so much out there that has already been said, maybe you could take some of it on board instead of the repeat threads.

GilbertBlytheWouldGetIt · 12/01/2015 23:57

Joanne01 is scarily similar, Flimflammer. Confused

CuttedUpPear · 13/01/2015 00:10

OP you are thirty one years old.
Not a silly school girl anymore.
It's time to grow up and move on.

SelfLoathing · 13/01/2015 00:25

We'd been getting on great for a whole year

Nope. You'd been FLIRTING for a whole year.

Flirting is not a friendship. It is not a relationship. Frankly it's nothing.

In a good,rare case, it's a bridge into a relationship.

In other cases, it is just a collapsed bridge.

Realise this and get over it. Seriously.

You were not "getting on great" in a friendship way - you'd been sexually flirting. That's now done and going no where because of the not-working-out snog. Not the first time, won't be the last.

AnyFucker · 13/01/2015 00:44

You again ?

I am embarrassed for you Hmm

Meirasa · 13/01/2015 00:52

I was thinking of you today- was pleased there were no more threads... thought sense had finally entered the equation.

Oh well....

You seem to want to post here the same crap pver and over again and no listen to a word people say. Your 31, seriously was he your first kiss or something???

He is just not that into you- loads recommend a book with a similar title- READ IT!!!

So what if he imitated it- bloody hell I'm sure when drunk he put loads of thought into it. Now he's sober, and possibly he'd realized how weird and needy you are he's initated something called distance.

Take the hint. This is embarrassing. Don't mess up your job over a meaningless kiss!!!!

beaglesaresweet · 13/01/2015 02:00

yes, OP just listen to the explanations on here, i.e. he was flirting with you and now for whatever reason he didn't think the snog was good enough for him OR he is one of those who just enjoy a bit a chase and getting a result but then lose interest. Maybe he's now interested or chasing someone else. Sorry that you thought it was genuine friendship when it was a bit a a game/ego-trip for him, maybe he's a bit of player.

beaglesaresweet · 13/01/2015 02:01

*interested in someone else

Ouchbloodyouch · 13/01/2015 04:22

Oh my goodness. How many replies do you need before you listen?

Have you never had a regretted drunken kiss, ?

SoleSource · 13/01/2015 10:20

Perhaps you're frustrated he hasn't chased you ad made passionate loge with you. Find someone new. He isn't interested.

wallaby73 · 13/01/2015 11:04

This whole thing is just ..... Mortifying. I feel embarrassed just reading it. OP, have some dignity.......for the love of god!! Or get a hobby?!

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