Ex dictating

[Misunderstood69]

I have met a man fell in love been together for about a year he has 2 kids and so do I ... He has them every other w/e and every single Sunday night and Monday night takes them to school mon and tues as his ex decided to take a job miles away ... She didn't want kids to meet me but we still met and after a few weeks his kids decided they wanted their dad to themselves and so he told me he would spend the time with his kids alone , no regard for how I felt or my kids !, he just answers to his ex all the time she wanted rid of him as she wanted a family friend yet he has to go school evenings etc with her so it all looks good seems she wants her new life but also him on a string , he now says he wants me and my kids to spend time with his kids well I have said no!!! Wasn't good enough 5 months ago ... He saying he regrets making that decision ?? And things change but why should they change because it suits him.. I love him wanted to be with him but it's like he spend so much time with me then he goes home for few days then he comes back again why should I just sit there and wait!! With his ex there is always gonna be summit I mean these kids are 12 and 14 and she isn't gonna let him have a life until they grow up even then she is still gonna want it all to look good. He says he wants to live with me! I cannot see how that is going to ever work with the way she is and the kids want their dad alone besides which our kids would have to share rooms and my kids have been through enough and his kids have their own rooms at home.. I feel like my life is on hold I hurt all the time just not sure what's for the best anymore ..

Nothing had already been agreed over Xmas she said she would ask the kids so he asked them instead !!! And if they are co parenting and she wants him to sit and chat at parents evenings then they should be able to chat as a family !!! if it's ok for her ask them then the same goes for him... He has asked on several occasions and it's her way or no way.. I agree they should ask the kids but it should be ok for either of them to ask .. I do mean do as you want because not matter what my opinion it wouldn't count for jack !! The more I read replies and looking from the outside it's a disaster waiting to happen..

And as for the kids not liking him that's what she uses if he says he can't do a certain day or time!! He is just weak I guess feels guilty but I cannot understand why he never made the situation the way it is.. He is often told I thought you was a good dad but now I don't think you are.. Which also in turn makes him feel bad well there are lots of dads that don't even give a toss about their kids.. Have them every other sat for the afternoon sit in the pub with them .. She puts him down but in reality he is a good dad maybe too soft with his kids but that doesn't make him bad... But all this is down to him and I guess that life isn't for me..