I feel sick- husband ran at me and put his hand around my throat

[OctoberCarrot]

I am shaking. I feel sick to the core. I feel despondent. I feel desperate. I feel there is no way back. My husband ran at me and put his hand around my throat. I had finger prints. I have the photos. I have a 3 year old who was telling Daddy to be nice to Mummy. From reading threads on mn I am not surprised. Slowly but surely the EA has been escalating. We had booked counselling for January bit now there is no way back. What do I do? It is three days before Christmas. We have things organised. I am suppose to be with his family, not him as he has to work, in a couple of hours. Something for the children to enjoy. Should I go anyhow?

Why me?

Hand holding! Well done on calling the police!

I'm sorry this happened I know it doesn't mean a lot but I am

Hand holding! Well done on calling the police!

I'm sorry this happened I know it doesn't mean a lot but I am

There is no way to "move on" whilst you remain in a relationship with him

Well done on reporting him, now make sure you follow through so it can be used against him in the future (for making sure any access to dc he gets is supervised etc)

You deserve to live without fear, and so does your 3yo

I'm glad you reported this OP. It's the best thing for your DSs safety, and yours.
How are you feeling? It's a lot to process. What support do you have in RL? Can you talk to local domestic abuse agencies? You can still call Womens aid from outside the UK.

Hope you're ok, op.

You sound so strong. Your dc is lucky to have you. Keep them away from this dangerous man before he teaches them his terrible ways.

I'm glad he sent that message, you have more proof.

Not only that, the message is proif this isn't a one off.

If it were a one off he'd be begging for forgiveness and mortified, not saying he had the right to because you asked for it with your behaviour.

Please, protect your child and yourself. Report and escape.

You do not want your child to see this as normal and acceptable. You wouldn't want this for her

All ok?

Gosh, what a strong woman! You should be very proud of yourself , im sorry this has happened

That exact thing happened to me 3 months ago. I called 101 who sent round police to talk to me with a couple of hours. He was arrested and eventually charged with assault and got 80 hours community service.

I was assigned a victim support representative who was amazing and very enlightening. She said to go from zero physical abuse straight to throat grabbing is unusual and very alarming.
He's now out of my life and I am free and safe - I really hope you can call 101 today.... If nothing else they will listen to your story and offer practical advice

How are you October?

I hope you are ok, October