Restore my faith - tell me about your decent men!

[horseygeorgie]

Hi everyone!

I have been a serious lurker for many a year and have become very concerned here and in RL about the apparent lack of decent guys out there. So I thought I would start a tread that had an uplifting positive note as it is nearly christmas!

If you would like to, let's give a moment to all the decent men. Tell me about your husbands, brothers, fathers and anyone else who is not a massive w*nker.

I'll start - to my dad, who has been more than supportive since I got pregnant. He has helped me the entire way, is completely selfless. He took me out today and bought my christmas shopping and is always there if I need him, be it at ten in the morning to fix an appliance or 12 at night to repair a car. I also remember him bringing me whisky and chocolate and an awkward dad hug when I split from my husband.

Your turn!!

He loves me grey hair, hairy chin and wobbly bits

Aww.

What a lovely thread!

I've not moved from the sofa these last two days, while DH has done everything, because I'm sick. He's currently cooking me a delicious roast and took DS out earlier for a run round the park. I feel so lucky to have them both in my life. DH supports me in everything, puts up with my nonsense, is a fantastic father and just fun to be around. DS is only 3 but is very sweet and loving and absolutely hilarious. Very quick to tell me he loves me and hands out lots of hugs and kisses.

My dad is certainly not perfect but he brought me up to know that I am equal to any man and can do whatever I want if I work hard enough. That kind of support is what's helped make me a confident and successful woman so I am forever grateful

My DH sees my time looking after our DD as work, and harder work than his job so he shares the night wakings (7 MO who does not sleep!) 50/50, lets me sleep in one day over the weekend (and he the next), does every bedtime because he wants to spend time with DD (if he has to work late, he brings a laptop home so he doesn't miss it), washes up, cooks, looks after me when ill. I can tell him anything that worries me, and talk openly about my past if it comes up. He TELLS me to make time for hobbies if I haven't touched my music or craft stuff in a while.
I am so lucky. And having been in two EA LTRs, I appreciate it every day.

I'm a decent man, as far as I know. I just haven't been discovered yet, that's all .

At last...I love threads like this. I don't ever want to talk about DH's good points on MN for fear of sounding like a stealth boaster!

DH is lovely and a brilliant husband and father. He works hard doing night shifts as a male nurse and pays 70% of our bills, AND stays home during his days off with our DS so we don't have to shell out for childcare while I work. He has never complained about this situation and does it gladly and with love and attention to our child. He makes a big effort with my family too, attending events and socialising with them so he's not just "lomega's husband," he's important and loved by them in his own right. He helps around the house, always remembers birthdays/anniversaries, and never minds when I snap at him with rampant PMS...honestly he is the best thing to happen to me ever, and I wish every woman could find a man as brilliant for her as he is for me!

Gosh that was a bit puke making but it sure felt good to write it down. Trust me he does annoying things too like treading mud in through the house onto our cream carpets, forgets to change the bog roll when it's finished etc. But he is simply superb so I try not to moan at him :p

My step dad is also fantastic. He has been with my mum since I was very little so really, he brought me up...he is strict and grumpy and very old fashioned but he always praised us kids for our achievements, and being firmer with us when we were small has meant my siblings and I have done quite well in life career/social wise. He is very protective of my mum and if anyone dared look at her in the wrong way he'd have 'em He adores my DS too and always makes a big fuss of him, he treats him exactly the same as his bio-grandkids, and loves spending time with him.

Lastly I just have to mention our (me and DH's) mutual best friend, who was the best man at our wedding. He is single (amazingly) as most girls tend to see him as a brother-figure instead of boyfriend/husband material, which is really sad! As He is so kind and almost fatherly, very generous and affectionate. He lived with my DH at uni and was one of my best friends at school so it's because of him DH and I met (was visiting DF and DH was there!) He would love a wife and children of his own, has a good job, and is very clever/artistic, but so far hasn't had luck meeting a lady. He is quite shy/geeky though and loves games on the computer so can be introverted at times...but hey, we all have our hobbies :p

What a lovely thread.

Great at reminding me that despite all his faults DH is bloody amazing.

From the little things - like bringing me tea every morning before work and defrosting my car in the cold - to the quite frankly hideous and life changing - coping with the sudden death of our then 4 year old son 7 years ago.

He was great with DS and he's amazing with our teenage daughter - I love to hear them laughing and joking together

He's supported me recently through some personal health struggles which have taken their toll on my confidence, my mental health and our personal life.

But he's still here like a massive rock.

EllieFred :( Sorry about your son.

Friend 1 - has regularly called during recent illness

Friend 2 - despite hardly being in contact, rang up when heard I was ill and gave me loads of great advice from when he'd had a similar problem

Friend 3 - sent me a hilarious anecdote on the morning of operation when I was terrified and distracted me from tears

DH - supported me through illness both physically and mentally

DF - travelled in to support us with DC and house whilst I recover

DFIL - spent two extended weekends here supporting us even though he hates being away from his own bed for more than 1 night

ELLIE so sorry about your son.

My DH & I are expecting our 2nd child any day now & we have a 10mth old son. As you can imagine this is tiring work & I'm emotional, grumpy & full of the joys of late pregnancy! ATM, he works 12 hr nights (2hrs overtime), he's not had a day off in 2 weeks so he can gain 2 extra paternity days. On top of this, he's staying up to spend some time with our son & I. He's been an absolute rock & I love him very much .

Have a male friend who shares my interests and although we never see each other hardly these days we have a good talk about absolute crap that no one else would be interested in, he gets my sense of humour and has been there throughout a lot of crap. My dad has never been one for being cuddly/loving but after splitting from an abusive ex he called me and was on the phone listening to me crying for ages. He also phoned me a lot after mum died and issues with my sisters just to ask me if I was ok. I'm the eldest so sorted out a lot by myself, plus looking after dc and being self employed I had a lot on. That was very thoughtful. And finally dh, he's funny, so kind, he would do whatever I ask, whatever I need he's there. He held me all night after mum died as that was the only way I could sleep. When ds was born, I had to have bed rest for a fortnight. Dh did everything, including night feeds so I could recover. He mucks in with the dc and does housework when needed. He's an amazing man and I'm proud to be his wife.

My husband is wonderful with our 5 week old. Reads to her, takes her to see the ducks, sing to her. He's very overprotective. Of course she is oblivious being 5 weeks but it is lovely.

My DH is a stand up guy.

He is always respectful, kind, treats me as an equal and lets me know in big and small ways every day that he adores me.

He supports me in whatever I want to do. He wants the best for me and wants me to be happy and be the best that I can be and that is very visible in the way he speaks to me and treats me and approaches our relationship and life together.

He supports my independent life, friendships, career and interests.

He will always talk through any issues we have in a respectful, positive way. When he looks at me, I see huge love in his eyes .

He is a bloody great dad, too. And he takes on an equal amount of housework and 'wife work' and doesn't expect a medal for it.

to all the good fellas out there in MN world.

for the good women too.