Sorry this will be long.
I have been with DP for 9 years in total. 8 of these were spent living apart as we met very young. I had spells 'living' with him at MILs but we have only lived together properly for a very short time.
Prior to this our relationship was very good.
Since moving in I have begun to resent him at all times. He literally does nothing, and I mean nothing at home. I have done all housework and DIY since day one.
He does have a full on job but I also work full time. I will ask him to do things but he literally just say no and then I do it. If I don't they won't get done. He once left a bowl for 6 days before I washed it.
I also take care of all pets as he forgets or won't and I don't want to neglect them. He has not changed a litter tray or walked the dog once. He wanted the pets and they are owned 50:50.
I have become so upset and frustrated today having spent 3 days tiling a kitchen and bathroom myself (except help from my dad) as he is tired and hungover. It's his turn to make tea but he has ordered a takeaway.
I can't live like this any more. If we argue he tells me to just leave. Problem is I have 10k tied up in this property and I can't afford to loose that. My family have given us 5k also that I will loose and he is the main breadwinner so I could never afford this place on my own and he knows it. I could go back and live with my dad for a while, but like I said I can't get my head around leaving and loosing all of this money and effort that I have put in and letting him have it all when he has done nothing for it.
Other than this, our relationship is good but it is being ruined by me being a constant assistant for him!
My friend said I should just carry on as all men are like this, I hope not! If I was to leave is there a way I could get out without loosing my family inheritance and savings? The house would not be worth any more than we paid 6 months ago, maybe less than we paid actually.
What a nightmare!