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Please give me honesty

45 replies

Shiongmaoniao · 14/12/2014 18:06

My hubby has sustained cos he has found a spot where my ds has peed on his sofa
I have dealt with all nappies and potty training and most of the care of my kids he has become annoyed cos my ds has speed on the sofa aibu to tell him to suck it up?

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Original poster
Shiongmaoniao · 14/12/2014 18:06

I ment complained

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WowserBowser · 14/12/2014 18:08

Bit unhygienic to to suck it up, no?

PortofinoVino · 14/12/2014 18:08

aibu to tell him to suck it up?

What.........literally? Shock

TripTrapTripTrapOverTheBridge · 14/12/2014 18:10

Did you clean it up properly or just leave it there for him to find?

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Shiongmaoniao · 14/12/2014 18:11

No it's been cleaned it's just still wet

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CuttingOutTheCrap · 14/12/2014 18:12

"His" sofa?

Monmouth · 14/12/2014 18:12

'His sofa' 'your son' is that just a slip, is it our sofa and our son?

Anyway he's an arse.

GlitzAndGigglesx · 14/12/2014 18:14

Kids have accidents. Tell him to shut up and deal with it

overslept · 14/12/2014 18:15

Hubby? Assuming you are married/live together, he should suck it up (not literally). If he doesn't live with you and it's not his DC (you said "his" sofa? and "my" ds?)... Well, I myself probably wouldn't be best pleased if somebodies child did a wee on my sofa. I'd expect them to pay to get it properly cleaned if it left a smell/stain. Confused

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Shiongmaoniao · 14/12/2014 18:16

Yes I've worded it wrong it's our son but he is so bad at dealing with any bodily functions and I've been potty training our son and dealing with a stomach bug
I may be in the I'm to tired to cared zone I try to give him the benefit of the doubt but I do feel he is taking. The pics

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Shiongmaoniao · 14/12/2014 18:17

We have a sofa each same house live together never ment to drip

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Andrewofgg · 14/12/2014 18:19

He is extracting the urine. Tell him to sort it out then get over himself.

Coyoacan · 14/12/2014 18:20

I think the "my son/his sofa" is, in the lines of a freudian slip, very telling.

overslept · 14/12/2014 18:20

OP you sound exhausted or pissed. You said you have cleaned the sofa, so just fold a towel and put it over the wet patch so DH doesn't have to look at it then take yourself off for a nap.

GlitzAndGigglesx · 14/12/2014 18:21

Why do you have individual sofas? Would he have minded of your child had an accident on your sofa?

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Shiongmaoniao · 14/12/2014 18:23

He has gone to bed it is very telling I'm always worried I over analysis things as I have been in an abusive relationship before I'm so lost and maybe this needs to be moved to relationships board ?

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arethereanyleftatall · 14/12/2014 18:27

If you're English, the use of my is really really odd.
So, to summarise, your joint child has had an accident on your joint sofa.
Is your husband blaming you for this?

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Shiongmaoniao · 14/12/2014 18:28

Yes I am English and yes our son has speed on our sofa and it's my fault he is 3 by the way

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Shiongmaoniao · 14/12/2014 18:29

I corrected that
peed

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BalloonSlayer · 14/12/2014 18:34

It's no one's "fault." He's potty training. It happens.

Any one who complains is an arse.

HTH

Bunbaker · 14/12/2014 18:38

Why is it your fault?

Your husband sounds like a dick.

Pagwatch · 14/12/2014 18:43

Hmm
Your son, his sofa. That's weird, right there.

arethereanyleftatall · 14/12/2014 18:43

It's no ones fault. These things happen with a three year old. If your husband expected you to clean it up, and complained at you for it, then your husband is an arse. He has joint responsibility.

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MincePionaMumsnet · 14/12/2014 18:45

Evening folks. We're going to move this thread to Relationships in a moment, at the OP's request.

sooperdooper · 14/12/2014 18:46

Your DH is an arse, kids have accidents, more worrying you see your son as yours not ours, same with the sofa