Please give me honesty

[Shiongmaoniao]

My hubby has sustained cos he has found a spot where my ds has peed on his sofa
I have dealt with all nappies and potty training and most of the care of my kids he has become annoyed cos my ds has speed on the sofa aibu to tell him to suck it up?

That's my point I cleaned it. It wasn't dry he moaned I thought this was unreasonable
I'll admit I'm not gifted in the English language
He uses this to his advantage a lot
I try to limit the crossover i.e. he doesn't experience the poo pee sick or any other bodily function of our children but I'm fighting a losing battle

Seriously, I'd be booking myself into a hotel for a night and let him deal with ds

Id love to but can't leave have no money

And wouldn't leave him with the kids if you paid me

Have you got friends or family you and the kids can stay with them?

Yes considering not coming home after Xmas we have till Feb then a major debt ties and everything will be ok
But this isn't related to stress over a debt is it?

Quite possibly stress but he should discuss that with you. No matter what other problems you have children aren't just one parents responsibility

He has been this way since born my first child HD does not due to peado news

I dont understand your last post at all, but i do understand the sofa point. I have 'my sofa' and even my spot on the sofa. Looks directly at tv, not near possible drafts from the door or window and my charger can be plugged in and i can still reach it. So the use of my sofa makes perfect sense to me.

But that is definitely an over reaction of him. If he wasnt happy with your standard of cleaning, he should clean it himself.

Being parents to small children means everyone shares the responsibility of looking after them for everything they need. It sounds as though you've been made to feel solely responsible for anything unpleasant like nappies or toilet training, and that's quite wrong. If your little boy has had an accident, it's just that. An accident.

Is the 'peado' (sic) comment that your DH thinks changing nappies etc makes a man a paedophile?

I know this is a serious thread but are you the same OP as the Sharron thread?

Yes he feels any personal care Jake's him a paedophile

Now that would worry me. Why would he think that? Whats going on in his head? Or he's just saying that as he's a lazy arse.

wtf is he for real?

Um, that is really not normal. At all. I don't know what to say except to say you guys need help.

He sounds a bit like a Victorian. Does your husband display any other questionable behaviours?

OP - not sure if you are struggling with auto correct or if English is not your first language.

In the meantime I'll say this.

The sick, piss and poo from kids are a parents joint responsibility - passing out from that is a red flag.

Sorry, or that you are drunk, in which case I hope someone responsible is with your kids.

If he really thinks wiping a child's bum makes someone a paedophile he has got a serious & disturbing attitudinal problem and can't distinguish between 'hygiene', 'care' and 'unnatural sexual urges'. However, I think he's just using it as a ridiculous excuse to leave it all to you. Don't fall for the rubbish.