I shall be alone with my DS for Christmas Day etc almost the whole of the school holidays. Not really looking forward to that (again) Anybody else fancy admitting to being alone?

[SoleSource]

I have Sky TV this year

DS is severely disabled.

There shall be a Christmas thread in SN chat and day might post here or chat. I'll remind you
onionlove

SN is probably the best place for it and probably best if there is one thread.

Be good to have other threads none SN related for people spending Xmas alone in different topics. Usually is.

Friday is almost here. 17 days of sheer boredom and excruciating isolation.

I won't be alone - but appreciate how hard it can be that a lot of (very judgemental types) assume you're some sort of weirdo if you are not one of a party of 20 sitting down for Christmas lunch.

Just be reassured many of them will not enjoy their christmas - whereas you have the oppurtunity to do whatever you want!!! Just try and make it a special day for you two - that's what it's about -

agree the comment about there "being loads to do" on xmas day is a bit unrealistic as most will be with family members and everything closes - but it's one day and things return to normal on boxing day

If there is a wider issue of you feeling a bit isolated perhaps there may be groups you could join and of course I am sure there will be support on these boards - if you want to cheer yourself up there will probably be loads of threads about people furious with various family member on xmas day!!

I think this thread is a great idea. I hope people find great help in it. I was just talking about this issue today with a patient.
It is such a difficult time to stay positive and light. The loom of xmas is large and somehow we want everybody to be happy and surrounded by loved ones. If you are already struggling then the long dark nights and forced joviality is tough to take.
On another note I would bite the bullet in years to come and ask people if they fancy an extra guest. In years gone by my family we have had lots of different people join us at Xmas. I hope if a friend of mine was lonely they would ask to join us/meet for a walk/pop into theirs for a quick cuppa.
Be kind to yourselves ladies. You are all doing an amazing job.

Signing in.

Merry fucking Christmas.

I m actually looking forward to Christmas, I've bought myself a bottle of Jura, I'm going to wrap it and everything

Hi OP I hope you have bought yourself a little pressie at least? If not, still time. I've got a few and will sit and give them to myself - at least I'll like them

Want to echo Yourfrench all you mums are doing a wonderful wonderful and the most important job in the world; being mums.
Big family Christmas are not all they seem. Some ones always ill and coughing over everyone. The cook doesn't let anyone else help in the kitchen then plays the martyr. Uncle Jo has fallen out with Uncle Jack. A couple of children who like to scream and run through thr connecting doors.
Plenty of people who would love a peaceful Christmas.
Buy yourself lots of treats. Expensive bubble bath to start on Christmas Eve, new PJs. Treats for breakfast. Watch what you like on TV and eat when it suits you.
Sending you all a big hug and wishing you all a super Christmas xx

Yes just one day.

Pamper yourself. The day will come when it's more like the one you want!

DS is unwell, bad cold.

Im sorry to hear that Soulsource. It just makes things that bit blooming harder, doesn't it?

Will your son be more unsettled because of it, or will he sleep it off?

sorry to hear that solesource - how's he doing today?
thinking of you

Tattle yes, is harder. He sleeps a lot. Boring dull house.

hold he is bit better today, going to make food for him again soon.

Thank you both x merry Christmas x

Merry Xmas to you and your darling boy, SoulSource.

My son is on the Spectrum and I just wanted you to know you're both in my thoughts and I hope you can enjoy some of the holidays.

xxxx

long time lurker

Wishing you are your darling DS a very Merry Christmas "SoulSource*

Me! Thanks for starting this thread. Been a bit down in the dumps today so it's nice to have some company! Sorry to hear your little boy is poorly.

Due to on-going divorce fuckwittery, I can't go anywhere, long boring story, and it won't be like this forever. I've turned the telly off as all the stereotypical 'happy families' is getting a bit too much and I refuse to entertain the 'happy memories' of yonderyear right now.

SoleSource thinking of you!!! We have moved away so it's just me, dh and the kids this year - it's going to be very odd but I'm fortunate the girls are getting older, dh and I are communicating so at least there is conversation and various teens popping in to see the older DC etc.

Merry Christmas to you and your son,

I'll also be alone for a large portion of Christmas. This is no different from the rest of the year when DC's dad hardly sees them. It's just the expectations are higher.
The only times I won't be is tomorrow, when my ex will come over to call me fat, ugly etc to see the DC and when I go to work on the 29th. I'll tolerate him for the kids' sakes, but I definitely won't enjoy it.
Otherwise, it's just me and my 3DC under 6.

My mum and brother have work commitments, which mean they can't come up here (too far), the rest of my family live ages away and I haven't really made any friendships locally, despite having lived here for nearly two years
It's a shame really, because I'm a social person and I have a lot to give in a friendship but I just don't seem to know how to get things started!

Hope you and your son have a lovely Christmas

Hello all.

I'm completely on my own this Christmas; exH has taken DS (5) to visit some friends who live in another country. I don't have any other family close enough to visit.

I'm having Christmas dinner at a friend's house tomorrow, but I'm not really looking forward to it. She has young children and I think it will just make me miss DS even more. I only agreed so that a)she wouldn't feel rejected after she was so kind to invite me, and b)I would have a more socially acceptable answer to give well meaning work colleagues who asked about my plans than, 'sitting on the sofa by myself drinking fizzy wine and watching telly'. I may have already started this.

However, I'm not feeling too sad. I 'did Christmas' with DS at the weekend. I explained Father Christmas had agreed to do an extra delivery because he'd heard he wouldn't be able to take all his presents home on the plane.

Father Christmas brought me lots of lovely treats I wouldn't normally buy for myself in my stocking, so tomorrow I'm looking forward to a lie in and then a long bath with all my new smellies, whilst drinking mini bottles of baileys before heading over to my friend's house.

Merry Christmas SoleSource and all of you

Was another thread started? Or are we posting here?

Anyone in south Somerset tomorrow?

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/2263789-to-ask-if-youd-like-a-meal-for-2-on-Christmas-day-in-Somerset-title-edited-by-MNHQ

Where we are its the middle of the night and my24 year old son who is very severely autistic has just woken up and thats Christmas for another year done :D

I was asleep and I heard him whispering to me - Mama is it time? Anyway i must have fallen back asleep because a few minutes later he was tugging my hand and saying - Mama Presents? Anyway I got up and for some reason I noticed is hands were freezing, and when we got downstairs I could see he'd already been and had a feast of his sweetie basket - his sweets are usually restricted but on a day like today he can do whatever the hell he likes :)

His presents were still to be opened and he ripped into them. He only had two because he's very difficult to buy for and this year it was a Planes DVD, part one and two, and this train set - www.amazon.com/Lionel-Trains-Coca-Cola-Holiday-G-Gauge/dp/B00IRA3JBC

He appears to be over the moon and the train set is now in his 'office'. Its funny because even without removing all the paper from the train set he knew it was a Lionel Train set. He just knew.

After he had reminded me he needed a certain size of battery , it was back upstairs and into bed. Because of his cold hands I asked if he needed another blanket and he said yes so i had the pleasure of getting another blanket for him and cosying him in. It would have made a lot of sense to put the AC off but he likes the noise of it so another blanket and another goodnight kiss it was.

My boy seems very happy and although he 'only' got two presents they are presents that have made him very happy. Everyone else's presents are downstairs under the tree, loads of them, and tomorrow I will have a full house - but truth be told me and my boy have had our Christmas and it was just wonderful.