I shall be alone with my DS for Christmas Day etc almost the whole of the school holidays. Not really looking forward to that (again) Anybody else fancy admitting to being alone?

[SoleSource]

I have Sky TV this year

DS is severely disabled.

[holdyourown]

to that fluffapuss welcome and happy new year to you and to all on this thread

[fluffapuss]

sorry I have had no internet access recently, I had wanted to join this thread

Over the years I have had some good times & some bad times, including on Christmas day.

In the bad times, I have tried to find at least 3 positive things each day, even if small things and this has helped me to move forwards.

I wish I had found Mumsnet a few years ago

Let's all look forward together to; good health, happiness & positive support in 2015
xxx xxxx

[holdyourown]

Hi solesource just wondered how you're doing now and how ds is? hope he's feeling better and that things seem a little brighter now that Christmas day itself has been and gone

[SoleSource]

You need an attitude Postcards. Fuck him!

[Postcardsfromtheedge]

I am on my own with two moody teenagers. Ex jumped ship a while back and loves to let me know what a wonderful life he has with his new partner. I have been in tears as I hate this isolated life. Ex was really anti-social when married to me and created this existence and has now gone to a lovely new shiny sociable life.

[AWholeLottaNosy]

Adorably I hope your Xmas has been ok, you know you have done the right thing for you and your family. Xx

[AWholeLottaNosy]

Oh no sorry to hear about your goldfish. XX

[SoleSource]

Our goldfish has died . R.I.P Splish

[adorably2014]

Hi - first Christmas on my own with the DCs after initiating a divorce not long ago. Still struggling to come to terms with soon to be ex husband's behaviour since the summer, and lots of stresses and pressures the last few weeks and lots more to come if the last couple of days have been anything to go by. But life must go on. The day has been peaceful and gone ok so far, and now DCs watching Chittty Chitty Bang Bang.
Thank you for starting this, SoleSource. All best wishes and hope the rest of the holiday goes well for you and your DS and that you don't get too lonely. And hi AWholeLottaNosy thanks for your kind support a few weeks ago. I hope your day has gone ok.

[Guilianna]

Happy Christmas Sole, hope ds feels better soon.

[SoleSource]

Ahh OK, good to hear. My Father was abusive too. Not seen him for 8 years and my enabler of a Mother either. Good riddance

[AWholeLottaNosy]

Thanks Solesource. I'm actually not sad, it feels such a relief to not have to deal with it any more. Went to visit my dad yesterday in the care home and he's just so pitiful now, unable to do anything for himself now. I was so scared of him when I was a child, he was an angry, selfish and bullying man. But he's so vulnerable and needy now, pathetically grateful for any help or attention. Brings up many mixed feelings for me. PM me if you want to talk more about your situation, happy to listen and help if I can. X

[SoleSource]

Thanks Jean x Happy Christmas to you and your family x

AWhole caring is such a emotionally draining job. Lonely and it almost killed me.

I can't imagine how you must feel. I'm sorry to hear of your parents.

I hope we can keep in touch xx

[AWholeLottaNosy]

I hope you are managing to have a nice day despite everything. It's hard to be alone at Christmas time as it really brings it home to you how alone you are. I'm on my own for the first time ever. The last year my mum died. She had a very severe stoke over 4 years ago which left her paralysed, unable to speak or swallow food and severely brain damaged. She was in a nursing home as she needed 24 hour care. My dad has dementia and has also lost his sight. I moved back home to look after him for a year but he had to go into a care home last year as I was on my knees, suicidal and so isolated with trying to look after him. So I'm completely on my own this Christmas. Feel a bit sad but made myself a nice dinner and on MN. BIG hugs to you, you're not alone! Xx

[JeanSeberg]

Happy Christmas Sole, pleased to read life is getting better for you.

[SoleSource]

Thank you all for your responsesxx

My DS is still unwell. My friend called me and invited us over but would be unfair to DS. Friend has bought me a present. I feel much better this ear as my friend cares about us.

Made me cry.

I still feel a bit sad but happy for others enjoying Christmas.

Life seems to be getting better for me, less lonely.

How you all doing?

Mary Popping is on

[poppetsaplenty]

Merry Christmas! Just checking in here - single parent with autistic ds 5. I have actually crumpled and gone to my mum's but she is in bed asleep and Christmases have always been very sober, quiet occasions as my dad had a fatal heart attack on Christmas day when I was small.

However I am mainlining port right now and when I go to bed in a bit my D's will be asleep next to me in my childhood bed. I love him so much although he is so so challenging and although bright is very much unable to cope with the day to day of everyday life becoming a hissing, spitting, biting fury especially when he is away from me and often bringing me to tears of remorse and shame when he has attacked yet another child or teacher.

But tonight he is quiet and calm at last in sleep and I will kiss his little plump cheek.

Have a peaceful Christmas everyone

[CorporateRockWhore]

Tattie what a beautiful post, brought me to tears.

Merry Christmas to all of you lovely, lovely people.

[WellWhoKnew]

Perhaps we should, tomorrow, start a...

"Dumped in 2014, having a shit, lonely 'festive' season of not being 'jolly' but being 'jolly fucked off' thread.

I refuse to hate myself for

a) owning cats (they are lovely and make me laugh),
b) being unemployed (he sacked me) and
c) marrying a mistake (I was not there when his mother made that decision/act of carelessness)

At least, in 19 days, for me, I will have to determine my own future all by myself. It is not going to be easy, but at least I'll have a starting position...

That is my 'festive season'. After all, the shit that stupid man has put me through, I am actually looking forward to a) being poor, b) being in control and c) No.More.Fuckwittery.com

I'm just working on a different calender to the Christian one. I am no longer doing "Christian charity". I remain Christian and charitable though.

Dumped but not totally pathetic.

[BatshitCrazyWoman]

Me! Rather like WellWhoKnew, for similar reasons. Finding it hard today, to be honest.

Am going to try and 'look after myself', and it will be over soon.

[Tattiebogle]

Where we are its the middle of the night and my24 year old son who is very severely autistic has just woken up and thats Christmas for another year done :D

I was asleep and I heard him whispering to me - Mama is it time? Anyway i must have fallen back asleep because a few minutes later he was tugging my hand and saying - Mama Presents? Anyway I got up and for some reason I noticed is hands were freezing, and when we got downstairs I could see he'd already been and had a feast of his sweetie basket - his sweets are usually restricted but on a day like today he can do whatever the hell he likes :)

His presents were still to be opened and he ripped into them. He only had two because he's very difficult to buy for and this year it was a Planes DVD, part one and two, and this train set - www.amazon.com/Lionel-Trains-Coca-Cola-Holiday-G-Gauge/dp/B00IRA3JBC?tag=mumsnet&ascsubtag=mnforum-21

He appears to be over the moon and the train set is now in his 'office'. Its funny because even without removing all the paper from the train set he knew it was a Lionel Train set. He just knew.

After he had reminded me he needed a certain size of battery , it was back upstairs and into bed. Because of his cold hands I asked if he needed another blanket and he said yes so i had the pleasure of getting another blanket for him and cosying him in. It would have made a lot of sense to put the AC off but he likes the noise of it so another blanket and another goodnight kiss it was.

My boy seems very happy and although he 'only' got two presents they are presents that have made him very happy. Everyone else's presents are downstairs under the tree, loads of them, and tomorrow I will have a full house - but truth be told me and my boy have had our Christmas and it was just wonderful.

[NameChane]

Anyone in south Somerset tomorrow?

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/2263789-to-ask-if-youd-like-a-meal-for-2-on-Christmas-day-in-Somerset-title-edited-by-MNHQ

[TheWrathofNaan]

Was another thread started? Or are we posting here?

[WildGeese]

Hello all.

I'm completely on my own this Christmas; exH has taken DS (5) to visit some friends who live in another country. I don't have any other family close enough to visit.

I'm having Christmas dinner at a friend's house tomorrow, but I'm not really looking forward to it. She has young children and I think it will just make me miss DS even more. I only agreed so that a)she wouldn't feel rejected after she was so kind to invite me, and b)I would have a more socially acceptable answer to give well meaning work colleagues who asked about my plans than, 'sitting on the sofa by myself drinking fizzy wine and watching telly'. I may have already started this.

However, I'm not feeling too sad. I 'did Christmas' with DS at the weekend. I explained Father Christmas had agreed to do an extra delivery because he'd heard he wouldn't be able to take all his presents home on the plane.

Father Christmas brought me lots of lovely treats I wouldn't normally buy for myself in my stocking, so tomorrow I'm looking forward to a lie in and then a long bath with all my new smellies, whilst drinking mini bottles of baileys before heading over to my friend's house.

Merry Christmas SoleSource and all of you

[Surfboredcat]

Hope you and your son have a lovely Christmas