I am new to this so still learning the language.
I am 37 and my partner is 62, we have been together for 17 years, 3 kids - 2 boys, 1 girl . There is a backstory to this relationship that is very long.
My main concern right now is that I think some of my actions over the years (affairs) have led to a drop in confidence for my partner and it is affecting him sexually now.
Only once has he mentioned it and quite rightly blamed me for it but I don't know how to help him get his confidence back.
As a couple - people have often commented on how perfect we are, we are very good together but behind closed doors things aren't so great.
Is it worth going to couples therapy or a sex therapist? How do I suggest it?