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I will lose him either way......?

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busybee123 · 16/04/2004 11:18

I am a city girl born and bred. I moved into the little village my husband was brought up in when we got married. We now have 3 children together. The trouble is, where we live is starting to come between me and my hubby. I hate it here but have kept my mouth shut about it for 6 years now, but its all come to light now and it's come to the point that if I stay here much longer we will end up splitting up because I am so miserable here. However if I move back to the city, hubby won't come with me cos he will hate it cos he is a country bumpkin, so I will lose him anyway. I love him dearly and don't want to be without him but I can't see it ending up any other way. What am I to do? I will be miserable either way. HELP!!

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gothicmama · 23/04/2004 11:36

Busybee get in touch re meet up thread!! Keep strong

LIZS · 23/04/2004 11:36

I'd agree with Aloha. Coudl you perhaps start to leanr to drive. It would be a way of getting more independent, give you a break from the kids and il's and something to aim fro which would help your self confidence.

In the meantime a trip to the dr won't hurt and perhaps another attmept at Mums and Tots. I bet there are other lonely young mums in the village who you could befriend. Do you go to the playground or for walks with yours as that is a good way to meet others without pressure.

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busybee123 · 23/04/2004 11:38

gothicmama have done already. do u need my email address?

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aloha · 23/04/2004 11:43

So what is it you love about him? And how about a trip to the doctors re possible depression/PND?

marialuisa · 23/04/2004 11:47

Sorry busybee that must be so frustrating. it does sound as if you are depressed and your DH is burying his head in the sand.

are there any mums+tots type activities in other villages that you could get to? Would it be worth trying again with your village group? I'm really surprised there are no other younger mums in the area. i was 22 when I had DD so I know exactly where you're coming from about the attitudes of some 30 something mums.

Loads of sympathy instead of any constructive ideas. 3 littlies in rural Shropshire and no transport would send anyone crackers

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busybee123 · 23/04/2004 11:49

aloha...he is so great. especially with the kids....he gets home from work and i don't have to do a thing....he won't let me!!!....he is really kind and funny and i love him to bits. its just this moving thing thats got him rattled. its so not like him

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busybee123 · 23/04/2004 11:50

ok now i'm blubbing!!!

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gothicmama · 23/04/2004 11:56

Busybee can you use contat another member and mail me - I can probably get over to see you next week (if you would like a visitor)Big hugs

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busybee123 · 23/04/2004 11:57

will try to!!!

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busybee123 · 23/04/2004 12:02

gothicmama have tried to contact you through mumsnet. hope you get it.

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gothicmama · 23/04/2004 12:10

busybee have not get it yet will check later

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