exh has broken dd1's heart

[lou33]

by telling her he is now not coming back at all

his reason? he has nowhere to stay in the uk and is trying to make a new life for himself

now she feels he has cast her and the others aside for his 23yr old bargirl that he has knocked up

i am beyond angry with him

i mean how dare he/she/they send messages saying how sad he is and how much he cries everyday to her

wtf does he think it will do to her?!!!

oh man i feel like calling back on that number and shouting

i am so mad

now he has sent her a text like he knows nothign about it

just read this lou, what a pratt your ex is. your poor kids.hope the text messages have stopped, hes going to screw the kids right up. selfish tosser

i need to calm down

i am so mad i want to hit something

she keeps checking her phone

punch the sofa! haveyou got astiff drink you can have. my ex was a total tosser when he came to visit my ds, he has supervised visits in my home. he infuriated me so much i could feel my head shaking with anger! my mum came round and he still ranted on infront of her. my hands were shaking by then, i couldve killed him!took me a few hours to eventually calm down and a few ciggies and a couple large brandies!

ive already gone outside and paced up and down and ranted to my soldier, and had a fag

still want to deck the bastard

yeh

tho he did text her today and said ok well mum is in charge but dont forget how much i miss you !!!

then he called when i was out but the line was too bad to speak to them

he's an arse

keep reading your stuff LOu, ffs, cannot beleive waht a twat he is. thank god you are there for them

thanks mate

i cop the fall out too unfortunately

just as well i have my soldier to cheer me up at weekends and put a smile on my face!

Grrrrrrrrrrrrrr what an arse that man is. All about me, me me, and no concern for his children.

If this Thai girl really is surviving by making t-shirts the last thing she needs is an irresponsible tosser like him. She'll learn, sadly.

Feel very sorry for your four esp. dd1. FWIW I had big abandonment stuff in relation to my own father and got through it in the end. Hurts, but not forever. When she's upset, try asking her to write him a letter - doesn't have to be sent but just gets all the feelings out of your system.

lou I am sorry. Splitting up really shows peoples true colours. I am and on your dd's behalf. He is a complete twunt (as others have said). How parents treat their children when they separate says so much about them. Please, please keep a close eye on dd. My dd has had to deal with a very difficult relationship with her father at this age and it has been very, very destructive. Best wishes.

i'm keeping a close eye dont worry, i've been there with my own father so i remember how it felt

she's lashing out a lot and i understand why, but although i will make certain allowances for her behaviour i wont let her use it as permission to do as she pleases

she's been taking it out on the younger ones a fair bit, so have had to have a lot of words with her about their feelings too

funny how when he read this thread he was more concerned about clarifying what his thai gf did, instead of giving a flying fu*k about the feelings of his daughter isnt it?

It really is "all about him" though isn't it Lou. His gf texting to say he is in tears - that's all about him too. No thought about the devastating effect it may have on his DD - just wallowing in self-pity.
Feel angry on your behalf and sad for your DD.

exactly bugsy, he will never ever admit that tho