Being very childish, "does he like me..?" Your opinions please!

[Tobleronerollocombo]

Hello you lot, NC for this but am a regular. Won't bore you with pom bears etc. I have found myself in a bit of a muddle and can't quite work out where it's going, so I was hoping to give you lot the facts and you can tell me which direction it's headed because I just can't tell!

Basically, I went on a night out and ended up getting with (heavy kissing, grinding, and other stuff culminating in oral sex for him) a man who lives in my building. It, and he, was incredible, sad to say it was better than any full on PIV sex I've ever had. At the time he was an acquaintance I found I had loads of things in common with. We talked a lot and I slept over, although I left before he woke up in the morning (as we had discussed earlier, he knew this would probably happen). From what we spoke about we are extremely sexually compatible, which for what we are into is really quite unusual, and we have a lot of the same hobbies and interests, enough that it's really quite remarkable!

In the week that followed, we have been texting, (I don't bump into him that often) a combination of flirty texts and texts about our mutual interests and the usual "how are you, do you have plans for the weekend" etc. type of things. Yesterday, I went over to his very late to watch a movie and keep him company, after the movie I ended up giving him oral sex again (he's very eager to reciprocate by the way, but it's shark week). I left shortly afterwards as I have some issues in the nether regions at the moment, although I did not tell him that, and I didn't want to disturbing anything down south.

So my question is this- does this sound like something that will turn (slowly) into a relationship, or will it stay as a casual sex thing? I ask you the MN jury because I find it so difficult to be objective about this, the almost sex is incredible and rare to find someone so compatible, and we both think highly of the other person (as far as I can tell). Help me before I get emotionally invested in this in case it isn't going anywhere! And no, you don't need to tell me how childish I'm being...

I think you need to ask him out somewhere and then if the feeling is still the same without the sex then he's a keeper. Don't let him take you for granted as i can see that might be possible if you just keep on going to see him. I hope it works out

This is so different from what I would ever do that I don't have a frame of reference from it. I'm not saying that to be disapproving, just acknowledging my ignorance. However the point of my post is this: you can have lots and lots of things in common with a guy without them falling for you - even if they fancy you. I have seen too many girls thinking 'but we get on so well and are so similar!' and not been able to say, 'yes, but he's not that into you nevertheless!'. He may or may not develop deep feelings and probably won't know himself at this point, but I wouldn't read too much into your similarities. Or differences, come to that. Sometimes if you're too similar I feel that men can see you as a sister/mate figure more easily, whereas if they think you're somewhat above them/different to them they're more likely to be star struck. Just sometimes. I'm an old fashioned girl and our approaches are utterly different, but I would expect him to make more of an effort and date you - it shows respect, which is everything, really. However I'm not saying that what he's done so far necessarily shows a lack of respect - I read your response to that kind of comment earlier and I'm not making it.