Just that really.
Have started other divorce threads but then sometimes don't go back to them because the whole thing is hard to accept (or I keep on meaning to go back to write on them but find that days pass).
Don't know if I should tell h I am thinking of calling it a day, or get my so called ducks in a row first, or even say how difficult I find this and see if he can change it. Not that we have much of a relationship to salvage but we do have 3 dc and the whole thing is terrifying.
I have told him many things by text and email (I find him very difficult to talk to) and we have also been to counselling together (for about 5 sessions before he stopped going) but his rudeness persists. I can only deduce that a. He doesn't like me and b. He has a short fuse and this is unlikely to change.
Somebody I know told me that my emails are confrontational and if what I want is a closer relationship I should approach him in a different way. So then I feel guilty that in fact I really just want to end the marriage and am looking for an excuse .
Am 45 and have spent yet another weekend withdrawn from h as I am offended by the way he has spoken to me on various occasions. Don't want to waste my life in this way but the thought of permanently altering my dcs' lives (they are 8, 10 and 13) is awful. Also of wrecking my h's life which is a bit as he is hardly sorry about the way he often speaks to me like shit .
(Sorry for swearing but expresses how I feel quite well!!).
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Husband's bad temper enough of a reason to call it day?
textingdisaster · 23/11/2014 15:34
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