Husbands porn - without a lecture please

[HarpGirl]

My husband looks at porn. It used to be magazines. Now with his iPad, there are several sites in his Safari Advanced. I'm going to list some of them... but please don't lecture me. I'm replacing the letter "u" with a hashtag - to keep it clean:

m.vidsf#cker.com
m.exposedwebcams.com
f#ckbookofsex.com
xdating.com
adultfriendfinder.com
18and abused.com
mrskin.com
m.pornstar.com

These are only some of what is in his history.

He used to deny he was looking at porn. Finally he said "Yes I'm looking..." "Yes, I like it..." No, I'm never going to stop..."

He says he's NEVER been to an online dating site. "These sites just pop-up." Aren't these sites more than photos? Are they not actual live webcams of women and/or sex acts, and hook-up opportunities? Do you need an account to access them? Do they really just pop-up in the history without having been visited? AND - are these sites free? I am expected to be careful with the money I spend... Is he using our money to buy porn?

Again - I don't need a lecture about "snooping"... I need an honest answer about these sites... I feel like I'm all alone in this. Please be kind.

and UP came your site!

You mean our site now!

Hi OP. I'm glad you found us.

I am anti porn. I don't like it because, as was said upthread, you cannot guarantee that the people performing it have not been cocerced or abused or are underage. So all of it is unacceptable to me.

My ex used to watch it. We are no lo longer together and his use of porn was a contributory factor in our break up. If you are uncomfortable with his unapologetic use of porn than that is a good enough reason to walk away if you want to do that.

Hi OP, I asked a really similar question on here at the beginning of the year and while this is not definitive, it's what I gleaned from snooping on the iPad..
i checked/put pop up blocker on. Then deleted all the porn individually on advanced by swiping each one, the delete red square comes up so I could then see most recent stuff.Anything around 12 Kbs was a streamed porn vid, on sites like you porn, keez, pornhub. 50 Kb was a serious session, around the 1 to 2 kb was link type stuff. Yes I know I am a bit psycho , don't really care and yes I might be wrong but this was correct on my iPad. Probably haven't helped you but I drove myself freaking mad with all this stuff, ime confronting them just makes them go incognito anyway.
you seem to know your boundaries, stick to them is my advice.

OP, I know you know this but....you can leave him for any reason at all you know. He has changed towards you and that may or may not be because of his porn habit. That could be enough to end it and for you to stop having this crap in your life.

Y'all are AWESOME!

Harp I understand you tiered approach with thoughts of porn....

Looking at a few pics....vids etc wouldn't be the be all end all.

Choosing to engage on line 'relationship forming' in the loosest sense on web cam sites or hook up sites would be....

Goodnight Vienna

Harp I understand you tiered approach with thoughts of porn....

Looking at a few pics....vids etc wouldn't be the be all end all.

Choosing to engage on line 'relationship forming' in the loosest sense on web cam sites or hook up sites would be....

Goodnight Vienna

Watching live webcams isn't relationship forming!
They have up to 100 viewers at once.
Sure some sites let you text chat but I'm sure the ladies don't read them.
By the way, there are couples webcams too. Where people watch couples at it.
Still I don't think there's any kind of relationship there, unless there is some paid private time or something.

No, I wouldn't call it relationship "forming" but it would be relationship destroying

Note to NoelJose: I actually wondered when I looked at the numbers what that really meant! Your comment was helpful to me...

I meant 'relationship destroying' believe me....

100's of people and couples engaging then that's ok then