i am the primary carer but husband keeps threatening he'll get house and children

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I am divorcing my husband as he had emo affair and treated me badly so trust has gone.
just starting the awful process and looking at financial settlement.
he has big pension, earns much more than me who is only part time, self employed. he knows I cannot afford the mortgage and keeps trying to intimidate me into thinking he will get the house and the children (16 and 17). I have always worked part time and have been main carer of the children with very healthy relationship with them both. he says I can go and work full time. I have long term depression and anxiety and other health issues, which he knows prevent me from working full time.
I cites my health problems, parenting and lack of socialising as to why he had to find a 'friend' because I made him sooo unhappy!!!
How likely is it that I will not get the house and not get custody.
if this happened my life would not be worth a dot and I am soo scared that it would happen.
does anyone know about this???

Hi twinkle - omg I don't reckon I 'd do that - I do feel better just moving that little step though = thanks pedantx

Your husband 's remarks are uncalled for but you telling your son your version of events was nt helpful. It may be he's frightened his son will reject him, if you try and ensure their relationship remains solid he may stop making threats.

hi northern I haven't told my son anything about the emo affair and my son asked me not the other way round, he said how much he'd noticed his dad had changed.................I have not even hinted at what he's been up to.