Husband had an affair. Level of deceit and lies terrible. Kept us both on the go while he told me I was his soulmate, do anything to keep me etc. I found out affair ongoing started divorce proceedings. He accused me of ruining his life but moved straight in with ow. Children were upset did not want to meet her. He said they had to but if they didn't like her they would not have to see her again. Since this meeting he's not seen them at weekends or holidays for 6 months ( does some childcare in week while I work) every time I see him he says he loves me not her and is miserable. I was delighted when he said he'd like to take them out for the day. Kids said they wanted to go but not if ow was there. He said it would just be him but she managed to mysteriously "turn up." I have no issue with them seeing her but very upset by the lies. I've also told him I don't want to hear more of his talk of love and wanting me back. That to me is deceiving her. Was a bit aloof with him today and wouldn't let him come with me for our son's birthday meal. Don't want to play pretend families. His mum has just phoned me, launched a tirade of abuse and accused me of upsetting her son. Have I made a difficult situation worse. In tears as tried so hard to keep this civil for the children. How do I stop this getting even nastier.