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How old were you when you met your partner...and how did you meet him?

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prettyfiestyforasmallone · 28/10/2014 12:08

hi everyone Smile

I have been single for about a year I'm 35 and all my friends and married so at a very different stage in life to me...

I'm ready to meet someone special I've tried online dating but it's just not for me.. I've tried match.com ok cupid and pof Grin had lots of response but I like funny men and it's so hard to find that through online messages..

so you wise lot what do I need to do to meet someone... I'm also feeling that at 35 I may have missed the boat Hmm
so tell me your stories of how you met your partner especially if you were over 35 Wink

(or alternatively if anyone has any single male friends send them my way)

OP posts:
Benedictinemonk · 28/10/2014 12:55

Both 42, both single after 'previous' ... met when we were both skiing in France and happened to be staying in same hotel. Tried to get a discount because after three days we were only using one room, but no luck ;) Still together 16 years on (and have just booked a ski holiday back to the same hotel).

teejayem · 28/10/2014 12:57

I actually met Mr Tee about 7 years ago when we used to work together. We were both in other relationships at the time, and although were friendly, we weren't that close.
Mr Tee and I ran into each other totally randomly while we were out with mutual friends about 2 years ago, fell head over heels. got engaged and are now expecting a baby. When you know, you know :) - I'm 31, he's 30

harrowgreen · 28/10/2014 12:57

I was 19, he was 18. Met at uni. Friends for a term, then became more than friends the next term. Together for 13 years, married for 6.

mrsmilkymoo · 28/10/2014 13:00

I was 24. We were both postgrad students at the same uni but would probably never have met if he hadn't commented on my blog. We met for coffee and although we are both quite shy people there was an instant connection. We've been together for over 10 years now, married for six.

Francescal88 · 28/10/2014 13:00

I've known my partner since I was 17 and he 22 - we are 26 and 31 now. I used to waitress at a Brewers Fayre while I was in 6th form, he was my manager! I had the biggest crush on him, then I went off to uni, and a couple of years later he found me on Facebook! We finally met up again in December 2012 and now we have an 8 month old son. There's not a day goes by I don't think about how lucky I am.

BloominNora · 28/10/2014 13:03

17 - went to the same school but actually met him properly while on a date with his best friend Blush. We were talking about getting engaged within about two weeks of getting together.

Been together 17 years, married for 10

Original poster
prettyfiestyforasmallone · 28/10/2014 13:06

Some lovely stories Smile

I already have children and don't want anymore... just ready for some company Smile

I just got asked for ID at tesco for wine! that's made my year... so my confidence is riding high today..

its hard I live in a very small town feeling very lonely at the moment... not helped as my ex has just started dating the girl who lives next door to him Envy

OP posts:
AccidentallyInLove · 28/10/2014 13:06
  1. Together 8 years and married. We met through mutual friends.
Erbalunga · 28/10/2014 13:06
  1. We were both in the same 'crowd' but I'd discounted him as a partner because I thought he was too short Blush.

Then I noticed that he was a lovely, lovely man and I came to my senses.

We've been together for 21 years.

ThinkIveBeenHacked · 28/10/2014 13:07
  1. We worked together and were sort of "set up" by a colleague who knew we fancied each other.

We are now nearly thirty with two kids and he is my DH.

Knottyknitter · 28/10/2014 13:09

33, almost 34.

Match.com

Again some dating disasters before DP, but well worth persevering!

elQuintoConyo · 28/10/2014 13:11

Picture this: Sicily, 1998 Grin

Both on our first day of work. I was 23, DH was 25. Been together 17 years, married four, 3yo dc.

He was the only man at work Blush Grin

  • the old 'picture this: Sicily 1942' stuff is a Sofia quote from Golden Girls, just in case anyone thinks wtf!
mumwithanipad · 28/10/2014 13:19

I was 20 him 24.
Met him on a night out.
Was a drunken thing that turned into more.
Been together 15 years, married for 2.

Jackiebrambles · 28/10/2014 13:21

I was 33, and met him on match.com

I'd done internet dating for years, met lots of lovely blokes but none that lasted/felt right.

My subscription was about to run out and I was actually obsessing over a younger bloke I had a fling with (not from Internet, but 'real life' who had got himself a new girlfriend which was driving me mad) and my friend got annoyed with me.

She said, 'right that is it you are going to send three messages to blokes on Match tonight, lets find them now!'.

My DH was one of them. We've been together 5 years, married for nearly 3. Got DS and currently expecting another.

choochoomcgrew · 28/10/2014 13:27

Fancied each other for years but both had been in other (awful) relationships so had settled to be mates and never thought anything would happen. Happened top end up single at same time when I was 33 and he was 38. Hit it off immediately. Both had kids and agreed we don't want more ( none under 10 so definitely didn't want to go back to nappies) .
We're only two years in, but everything's awesome.
Ithought I was past it and my relationship before had been so awful i figured I was destined to be alone.
It can happen!

PeteCampbellsRecedingHairline · 28/10/2014 13:33

Met each other at 20 & 21 through a mutual friend. I was in a shit relationship but we became really good friends.

5 years later we were both single, and had consumed a little bit too much Wine. We've now been together 8 years, with 2 DC. Smile

everydayaschoolday · 28/10/2014 13:36

31, met at work. Married and first child at 34, 2nd child at 37. Very happy together :) When you meet 'the one', it can develop quite quickly. No way have you missed the boat ;)

Do stuff you enjoy and you'll find someone with similar interests when you're not looking for them. Good luck OP x

HeyMicky · 28/10/2014 13:37
  1. On MySingleFriend, when it was very new.

If you're looking online, you need to get i early to newly-established sites, before they become full of idiots looking for easy hook ups

CointreauVersial · 28/10/2014 13:39

27 (nearly 28), met at work.

That was 20 years ago this Saturday!!

Bakeoffcakes · 28/10/2014 13:40

22

On holiday in Spain. We met in the August and married the following March.

We've just celebrated our 25 year wedding anniversary.

MaxsMummy2012 · 28/10/2014 13:57

Met when we were 11 at secondary school, started going out at 20, been together 11 years and married for 5.

bruffin · 28/10/2014 13:58

We met at a Rotoract club when i was 24 and started going out 27 years ago. We were married in 91 and have have a 17 and 19 year old

BobPatandIgglePiggle · 28/10/2014 14:01

Met when I was 26 at work. Got together when I was nearly 30. Been together 6 years and ds is 2

whatsbehindthegreendoor · 28/10/2014 14:04

I was 18 when I met my husband in a local nightclub. I'm 40 now and we're still together. He was my first boyfriend and he'll be my last! We had our son when I was 20 and now we've got the rest of our lives ahead of us to enjoy!

McFox · 28/10/2014 14:12

I was almost 35 and also feeling like I might have missed the boat too, but no! I met my DH through work and it all moved quite quickly - we were engaged and married within 2 years. I've just turned 39 and our gorgeous 4 month old DS is fast asleep in my arms Smile There is hope!