Had enough of dh attitude

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He flatly refuses to do anything. I don't make unreasonable demands but he flatly refuses to do anything with the kids.

Why?

For example I work 4 days a week he works ft therefore all school runs, concerts, parents evenings, weekend activities are my responsibility

How old are your children? Has he always been like this?

I don't know why

They are 10 and 12 yes always been like this just flatly refuses to help

How on earth have you done it for this long?!

I am so miserable, tired grumpy resentful. Just trying to sort my life out get career back on track rather than just a job around everybody else

then you flatly refuse to do other stuff if you do any of it already (his ironing washing and shopping and organising come to mind. )

So what is the point of him in family life? If it's just money you'd get that as a single parent AND time off.....

If I refuses to wash, cook, clean then he moans and moans and threatens no money. He controls the finances

There is no point of him in family life wish he would just disappear but know a divorce would be very nasty and expensive

Bin him..... Ugh, poor you.

He controls finances??? But you work.. What a fucker. What an absolute fucker.

OP, get yourself onto the Relationships board. You clearly have more problems than anyone can deal with here. Not saying that you should leave him, but it's something that you should think about, ie whether there's more pain having him there than not having him.

I am trying to change jobs he knows he is loosing some control so is being really difficult

expensive, yes. But the waste here is your happiness. Poor and happy.

Would love him out of my life. He undermines what I say to the children so not helpful

You've summed it up...control.

Agree you need the lovey women on Relationships, ask to have thread moved?

Sorry for posting in the wrong place how do I do the moving bit. I tried to get him to leave but he won't I have to leave

Make sure your salary is paid into your account. Not his, or a joint account.

Would also stop doing his laundry. And food, if it is reasonable in your house to cook for you and the DC separately.

Yes, definitely see if you can get this moved to relationships - lots of help and support available

Why on earth are you putting up with it?

Could you get your salary paid into a separate account?

I don't know why I suppose just so tired and drained

OMG, you poor thing he is controlling you well and proper.
You deserve a medal after all this time, how can he be like this towards his family?
Yes, you have to leave, you shouldn't still be there. Are there really people like this?

Report one of your posts and explain you want the thread moved. You'll get lots of great advice.