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36 year old woman/21 year old man discuss

41 replies

nomrsrobinson · 02/10/2006 12:42

ok if you met someone and then found out there was such a big age gap would it stop you from seeing them again .discuss

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anniediv · 02/10/2006 12:42

No it wouldn't.

zippitippitoes · 02/10/2006 12:43

no

adevilknownasheavenis · 02/10/2006 12:43

no

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nomrsrobinson · 02/10/2006 12:43

really?

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Orlando · 02/10/2006 12:44

Depends if I wanted something long-term and serious or was after a bit of fun. In which case the answer would be yes and no respectively.

waterfalls · 02/10/2006 12:44

Nothing wrong with that, as long as they are both adults.

lulunaticmama · 02/10/2006 12:44

sounds fun and possibly tiring! if you know what i mean

would probably be good for a short term physical relationship without a serious future - or maybe i am being judgemental...

if you like them, get on well and fancy each other...what harm in giving it a go....

anniediv · 02/10/2006 12:45

Yes. Have done much older and much younger (im my previous child free life of course!). Made no difference to me. My dh is younger than me (not by such a big gap)

Iklboo · 02/10/2006 12:46

Not if you got on well and all that. He's an adult after all. DH is 8 years younger than me (OK, that's obviously not 15 years - but what the hey?)

LemonTart · 02/10/2006 12:46

is this strictly theoretical nomrsrobinson??
Life is more complicated than just age - too many other factors, some related some not, that can cause issues here.
I know a woman who left her hubbie for a bloke over ten years younger - only to leave him six months younger and settle down with someone else who is almost ten years older than her original husband!! They are now very happy. I reckon she enjoyed the young thing for a while and was very flattered by him but found the friendship circle and the worry about competing young things too much. Mind you, she is the type to worry herself a lot about appearance and would feel very weird going out with the mates of a young minded good looking 20 year old. Still, gave the village plenty to talk about for a while

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nomrsrobinson · 02/10/2006 12:47

well lets just say "a friend" and it is a friend not me.
has a wonderful fella intersted in her very mature great personality.and thinks shes the bees knees ,she keeps pushing him away even though shes interrested mainly as she has a dd only 4 years younger than him .

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juicychops · 02/10/2006 12:48

no. Im 21 and my dp is 32. Didn't stop us

expatinscotland · 02/10/2006 12:48

Absolutely NOT.

I truly believe that age is just a number.

When I met my husband, he was only 24 and I was 31.

But he was light years ahead of any man I'd gone out w/in terms of emotional maturity.

Some people just are.

Friday night I went out w/a work colleague who met her husband when she was 17 and he was 37.

They married when she was 18 and are still together 22 years later.

bluejelly · 02/10/2006 12:48

I'd be worried he'd grow up and grow out of the relationship. I changed hugely between 20 and 30.
The guys I fancied aged 21 are totally different to the ones I fancy now (33)
But everyone is different

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nomrsrobinson · 02/10/2006 12:49

did you get any remarks or hassle form friends /family through?

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expatinscotland · 02/10/2006 12:51

I didn't. But if I had, I'd politely remind them that it's no one's business but ours.

Other peoples' comment definitely wouldn't put me off seeing someone I liked and he liked me.

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nomrsrobinson · 02/10/2006 12:54

yet again mumsnet has me stunned .when i posted this i expected people to be shocked and not at all supportive ,will copy and print this and show friend , thank you

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expatinscotland · 02/10/2006 12:56

IME and IMO, life is way, way too short and too precious to waste opportunities for love, age notwithstanding.

As for long-term, well, no one can predict that, so why not just go for it and see how it goes?

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nomrsrobinson · 02/10/2006 12:57

thanks x

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noddyholder · 02/10/2006 12:58

I think it is fine in theory and would be fun but I think it would begin to unravel when the woman got older

thaigal · 02/10/2006 14:07

What about a 46 year old woman and a 26 year old man?

sandyballs · 02/10/2006 14:10

What is there to discuss, sounds fabulous

UlySCREAMS · 02/10/2006 14:15

Tell your mate to go for it

I met a 22 yr old guy once on a night out and spent time chatting. There was amazing chemistry and he wanted to see me but the fact I'm married was all that stopped me not that I'm 38. He was so mature and had lots in common with me.....

spook · 02/10/2006 14:20

I'm nearly 40 and DP is just 30. Its truly wonderful but in the back of my mind there is always the niggle that I will start to look my age and start to feel insecure and push him away.
But if it ain't broke don't fix it. Right now I couldn't be with a more gorgeous,mature,sexy and ambitious man.
Good luck to her!!

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