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36 year old woman/21 year old man discuss

41 replies

nomrsrobinson · 02/10/2006 12:42

ok if you met someone and then found out there was such a big age gap would it stop you from seeing them again .discuss

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expatinscotland · 02/10/2006 14:32

A person your own age can just as easily 'outgrow' you, 'the relationship ran its course', 'drift apart' or any of the other myriad of reasons people give nowadays when they no longer want to be w/someone.

Age is as individual as eye colour and personality.

geordiemacminx · 02/10/2006 16:02

I'm 24, dp is 43, we've known each other since I was 19 and are expecting our first child together in 6 months. He has a dd who is 15.. yep, closer to my age than I am to dp's

He is also 7 years younger than my mum.

We are totally in love, and apart from the odd disagrement about music we get on fantastically.

Age really is just a number. My dp is a young 43 and I am a "mature" 24.. (well sometimes). I work with people that are about the same age as him. and sometimes I think they seem older than my parents!!

As long as your friend is happy then it really shouldnt matter!!

ps... havent had anyone mistake me for his daughter yet

mandymac · 02/10/2006 16:10

My mum met her DH (my step father) when she was 43 and he was 28 - they are still together 20 years later and got married 2 years ago. I really think it depends on the individual.

lilibet · 02/10/2006 16:15

My exh is now 55, my dh is 32 and I'm 43 !!

Younger is so much better !!

sleepfinder · 02/10/2006 16:48

No it wouldn't stop me - it would depend entirely on the individual.

When I was 31 I was in a relationship with a 21 yr old for 6 months and again at 35 with a 23 yr old...

It depends on you and him, and your own levels of maturity, your interests and the truth of your own expectations.

In fact amongst many, this is quite normal.

good luck!!

MamaGlamourPuss · 02/10/2006 16:49

stamina

expatinscotland · 02/10/2006 16:50

Oh, you'd be surprised, MamaG. I have been out w/older men who can match the stamina of a younger one any day.

MamaGlamourPuss · 02/10/2006 18:17

you're a little minx expat

hub2dee · 02/10/2006 18:45

mrs. r - I think it might actually be a little tricky for your friend's 17 year old daughter to handle IMHO. Perhaps I am out of touch with 17 year old girls, but I'd imagine I'd be mortified if my mum was going out with a guy just four years older than me ! (heck, she might end up fancying him they are so close in age !)

If the relationship between mother and daughter is such that the daughter thinks it's great, and she is comfortable with this, that might be a different matter, and of course not all 21 year old men are the same, perhaps he seems much older (or of course younger, LOL).

Anyway, hope your friend finds happiness !

flyingsultana · 15/11/2006 06:41

My partner is 29, I am almost 52. He is the absolutely BEST man I have ever been with in EVERY way. We hit it off immediately, are both of approx the same education and intelligence. Course it does help he is drop dead gorgeous (half Turkish) but raised in Holland, so liberal, and sensible.

We have been together 2 years, without a problem.
I am sure when we are seen out in public others think he is a gigolo. Nothing could be further from the truth.

Previous posters said everything is individual, and it is. It is quick to cast judgement upon others, to pidgeon hole and to generalise. Each relationship has it's own dynamic.

I read the other day about a Thai woman aged 104 who married her Thai man of 32. He said he wanted to protect her, and was teaching her to read and write another language.

Who are we to say that this is gross? They are both grown ups, making each other happy,where is the harm in it?

flyingsultana · 15/11/2006 06:54

My partner is 29, I am almost 52. He is the absolutely BEST man I have ever been with in EVERY way. We hit it off immediately, are both of approx the same education and intelligence. Course it does help he is drop dead gorgeous (half Turkish) but raised in Holland, so liberal, and sensible.

We have been together 2 years, without a problem.
I am sure when we are seen out in public others think he is a gigolo. Nothing could be further from the truth.

Previous posters said everything is individual, and it is. It is quick to cast judgement upon others, to pidgeon hole and to generalise. Each relationship has it's own dynamic.

I read the other day about a Thai woman aged 104 who married her Thai man of 32. He said he wanted to protect her, and was teaching her to read and write another language.

Who are we to say that this is gross? They are both grown ups, making each other happy,where is the harm in it?

UnquietDad · 15/11/2006 13:58

"ok if you met someone and then found out there was such a big age gap would it stop you from seeing them again .discuss"

Good grief, no. I'd think "lucky young guy"!!

doormat · 15/11/2006 14:01

I would say lucky sod
he is at his sexual peak at that age isnt he

and so is she
so fireworks galore

sleepfinder · 15/11/2006 15:54

no. been there done it, worn the t shirt

very common practice these days

Marne · 15/11/2006 15:56

Im 24, dh 38 ,we dont have any problems!

jolly4 · 15/11/2006 21:42

NO I DONT THINK AGE MATTERS MY FRIENDS DP IS 24 SHE IS 47 SHE HAS LOADS OF ENERGY BEEN TOGETHER 3 YEARS VERY HAPPY AND A GOOD TEAM

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