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my Husbands Ex girlfriend is liking Familie pictures of me and my husband on Facebook

62 replies

yellow500 · 14/10/2014 12:29

I have been with my husband for 2 years .we recently married a couple of months ago.
5 years ago he had a relationship with a women for a year. My husband told me that when he was with her, she would always say to him he would end up in a relationship with me.

Since we married she has been liking our wedding photos on facebook which our families have uploaded.and liking very close family members facebook status's..which has become more often recently..I don't know what to make of it..is she wishing us well..is she jealous..is she trying to raise her profile as to try to put a spanner in the works of our relationship...I don't feel confident enough to ask her why she is doing this...what does any one think...as she got good intentions or is she trying to be sneeky ..It's obviously getting to me otherwise I wouldn't be posting..any comments would be most appreciated Smile

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Lioninthesun · 14/10/2014 17:02

I think you have to trust here - she is not hiding anything and openly enjoying seeing you all happy. I don't think I would see that as a threat. Actually the two exes I am friends with on fb I sometimes like their pictures or posts. I hope their wives/g.f's don't think it means I want them back!!!

Bigoldsupermoon · 14/10/2014 17:26

Facebook is a lot sneakier, nowadays: I'll often see things on my TL that I think my friends have posted, but have, in fact, been posted by their friends. I've ended up liking friends of friends' statuses, IYSWIM, because I thought they belonged to friends.

Second point: my ex from years ago is now married to someone I've never met - and doubt I ever will. Ex and I are still in friendly, occasional online contact, and I love that he's happy. I do sometimes click the like button on pictures of him with his Mrs, and I'd be sad to think it's in any way intrusive/creepy - FB is a public platform, so any lovely pics are just that: public. I say chill out a bit! Smile

MintyCoolMojito · 14/10/2014 17:51

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DilligafMyUKIP · 14/10/2014 19:55

People seem to think 'like' means 'like' - it doesnt it, it means its has been seen/read and no further comment required.

sanfairyanne · 14/10/2014 20:16

she cant 'like' them if you sort out your facebook settings
otherwise you are inviting anyone to comment
your choice.

BitOutOfPractice · 14/10/2014 20:22

Dilliga that got me thinking. I found out about my exDP's OW when she (innocuously?) liked a comment I had put on his wall. I asked who she was (I'd never heard of her) and the whole thing unravelled before my eyes.

Your comment just made me think - maybe she did that on purpose. Just a seemingly innocent 'like'. Just to let me know she was there. Well it worked Hmm

TheDietStartsTomorrow · 14/10/2014 20:24

She was right about you two ending up together in a relationship though wasn't she?

How did she forsee that?

dorasee · 14/10/2014 20:30

She's just being nice and it's her way of saying she's happy for your hubby, who probably is a really nice guy and deserves you. Take it as a complement. She has surely moved on.

lunar1 · 14/10/2014 20:43

I like my ex's pics quite often. No further thought than that's a nice pic, glad they are happy.

Jengnr · 14/10/2014 21:54

My ex recently got married. He and I weren't meant to be but he is a good man and I'm glad he's happy. She seems very lovely too.

Jengnr · 14/10/2014 21:56

I like loads of his posts-

IAmBalonz · 14/10/2014 21:58

I regularly like my ex's photos, we were together a while, owned a house together and engaged, but we were too young and we were not meant to be together, he is however a very lovely man and his wife is also a lovely woman, they have two beautiful children and i am very happy for them, it wouldn't even enter my head that it would be weird for me to like the pictures.
If it bothered either of them we wouldn't be friends on facebook.
(Ex from 15 years ago)

SwedishEdith · 14/10/2014 22:14

Honestly, if she was jealous or trawling, she wouldn't be drawing attention to it - I really don't think she'd be 'liking' in those circumstances. And yes, I've clicked 'like' before realising it was a friend of a friend's post - which felt a bit wrong when I noticed.

vodkanchocolate · 14/10/2014 22:47

You can block her but it wont stop her liking your friends and families posts. Tbh I think I would just totally ignore it, I have been in the situation where Ive got annoyed with my husbands ex for fb related things and its just not worth the hassel.

Is your hubby in touch/on good terms with her?

For what its worth I have liked a few of my exs posts about his recent engagement, we have a daughter together and we have quite a lot of mutual friends and mix in the same circle I do it more out of politeness and to show acceptance more than anything, would hate to think his fiancee felt uncomfortable with it

sanfairyanne · 14/10/2014 22:56

so am i wrong?

in my settings, it is set so only friends can see my posts
i assume this does not mean 'friends of friends'
certainly no friends of friends ever 'like' my posts

WineWineWine · 14/10/2014 23:29

If your posts and pictures are Friends Only, then the post will not come up on anyone else's walls.
If they are public or friends of friends, then every time a friend likes or comments on it, it will come up on all their friends walls.

OP, sort your privacy settings out!

WineWineWine · 14/10/2014 23:30

Worded badly! Friends only settings will show up on friends walls only.

Ludways · 14/10/2014 23:35

I liked some of my ex's wedding pics, I genuinely wish them both well. I obviously won't continue on liking everything they post, but their wedding photos were lovely.

MexicanSpringtime · 15/10/2014 02:32

Another person who puts like on photos of an ex and his wife, I think they make a lovely couple and would be mortified if she read anything else into it.

differentnameforthis · 15/10/2014 03:13

If she is liking things that people have posted and she is not direct friends with them, they need to tighten up their privacy settings.

Otherwise, all and sundry can see & comment on their posts.

People seem to think 'like' means 'like' - it doesnt it, it means its has been seen/read and no further comment required.
Not for everyone, I like things because I like them!

bluetrain · 15/10/2014 03:44

like does mean like.

if it meant 'seen, read, no further comment' then I'd be 'liking' everything I read. surely no one does that?

ihatebats · 15/10/2014 06:34

I often like my ex's posts of his children and don't mean anything at all by it - no agenda at all!

Granville72 · 15/10/2014 09:51

Take a look at your privacy settings. You cant set it to friends only who can see or post / like / comment on your stuff.

Quite simple really. If you don't want her seeing stuff then sort your settings out.

HavanaSlife · 15/10/2014 09:58

Shes liking pictures family members have put on? Is she friends woth your dhs family and the pics are just poping up that way?

squitchey · 15/10/2014 10:17

People seem to think 'like' means 'like' - it doesnt it, it means its has been seen/read and no further comment required.

Er, no it doesn't. One of my FB friends 'likes' absolutely everything I post, as if they're just ticking it off as seen - it's weird and a bit annoying. It might mean this if someone's giving you information or replying to a question, but on a photo of a couple or a wedding, 'like' most definitely means that you like it!

One of my DP's exs frequently likes things he posts. It doesn't bother me, she's a nice person. And even if she wasn't and was doing it spitefully, what harm does it do me? He's not about to run off with her because she liked a picture.

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