Why did he take his ring off...?

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I think I know the answer to this question, but wanted to see what others think...

I was tidying my husband's home office/spare bedroom today (as I was fed up of it being a tip) and I noticed his wedding ring on a shelf below the keyboard. He sometimes takes it off in the bathroom and kitchen (bathing dd, washing up etc) and forgets to out it back on - but not elsewhere before. It is probably relevant to point out that he is left handed....

He was working late last night after I went to bed. I don't have any concerns about this - he is self employed and incredibly busy and stressed at the moment so he works every other evening after I have gone to bed. This has only been going on for the last few weeks, and he doesn't think he'll have to do that for much longer.

We had a chat about porn a few weeks ago after I found tons of it whilst looking for a file on the computer. He deleted it all (I didn't ask him to but I made it clear that I wasn't impressed). Since then he has given the computer a good clear out. He frequently deletes his internet history, but when I had a look today he was online doing normal type stuff last night (amazon, trip advisor etc - so much for the working ) but there is a complete internet black hole in the history between 11.30pm and 12.20am.

There are two options - one is bearable and the other is awful. What do you wise people think? Tia

It wouldn't even occur to me to worry about it. My DH takes his ring off a lot as do I.
By " mutual session" I took the OP to mean mutual masturbation not actual sex?

"Why have you not had sex for 18 months? That's odd isn't it?"

Panad, OP said they'd "only recently got married". The "fuck up" was 18 months ago. No mention of when the wedding was (it could've been just days ago for all we know). The lack of sex may be because "...he is self employed and incredibly busy and stressed at the moment so he works every other evening after I have gone to bed. This has only been going on for the last few weeks..." or something else entirely.

Right. Got it. Thanks

So the question needs to be framed "what were you doing online last night between x and y that required deletion and the removal of your wedding ring".

This is a mind fucker.......I wonder what it could be ?

Hmm im not sure could be a number of reasons easy to speculate. I never take my wedding ring off but my husband just has always hated the feel of wearing rings and wears it on a chain. Perhaps you could maybe say to him in a jokey kind of way that if he feels uncomfortable wearing it maybe he could buy a chain? See his responce?

I read it as she hasn't seen him wank since they got married (she referred to mutual as in masturbation) not that they hadn't had sex.

I take my wedding ring off all the time as if I get water under it it irritates the skin. I also get stress eczema in between my ring and middle finger.

I also remember being hyper aware of my ring just after we got married - as it's a recent addition it could still be bugging him when typing - or using a mouse.

Perhaps he was looking for a gift for you.

There could be many different ideas on this thread as to why, but I think you should just ask him.

I took it to mean that they haven't had a shared masturbation session. She didn't mention that they haven't been having sex, nor how long they've been married for.

YY, I also think they've had sex but she's not watched him wank since they got married, so doesn't know if he takes his ring off to do it!

Just ask. He's your husband after all. Sneaking around and waiting for evidence will only prolong the torture. A simple "I was tidying up the office/spare bedroom and I found your ring, how come you took it off?"