I don't think DP likes me doing my own thing

[SofaSpud]

Long story short, I find it difficult to tell my DP of 15 years when I have arranged to do something without him. I've told him I am doing a car boot sale on Sunday with my brother but now my mum and sis also want me to meet them on Friday for a drink.

I'm telling my DPtonightthat I'm also busy on Friday and will report his reaction so I can assess if he is BU or if this anxiety is all in my head.

That’s all.

He doesn't sound abusive, not based on this.

I can see why you've been careful because you KNOW he doesn't like you going out - even though he tries not to let it show, and instinctively you've tried to make him happy. But honestly, he's not going to become ok with it unless you make it less of a big deal.

By staying home so much, he's become accustomed to it so these occasional outings have been all the harder.

I'm not saying go out all weekend each and every weekend, mind! But just pencil in more outings. Some an hour, some an evening, and even an occasional all day one.