How would you feel if your boyfriend said these things to you about his ex...?

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They went out for 8 months last year. He mentions her a lot. She just seems to pop up in conversations every now and then. He says he can't stand her, that she was crazy, had mental health problems, was stupid/thick (despite having a PhD and holding an academic position at a local university), that she was rude to his friends, that she was vain/shallow (only cared about designer goods). He said that she never meant anything to him (despite being his longest relationship in 15 years - he said that his previous relationships only last on average a couple of months). I know that he had introduced her to his elderly parents and had gone on several holidays with her including a holiday with a friend's family.

I asked him what it was that he saw in her then and he said that it was all about sex - that she was "very wild" and that he didn't want to go into details.

It makes me think that he still has feelings for her and also screams alarm bells in that he doesn't seem to have anything nice to say about her. I don't really like any thing that he is saying tbh.

What do others think?

Oh reading backwards... you dumped him. Yay! It's interesting that another poster upthread said they thought ge'd likely bern dumped by this wild sex vixen ex. That was my very first thought when I read the OP.

Anyhoo, not your problem any longer. Enjiy being single

Thank you Spring. I'm feeling better. That rings bells for me too. Unless I can speak to the woman in question, I can't believe it these days. Well done OP.

Well the longest relationship I've had in 15 years is 6 months. Not a red flag at all tbh. Some people are just not lucky in love.

In his case the slagging off of his ex would put me off.

Sounds like she dumped him and his nose is well and truly out of joint HOWEVER a decent man would never talk about intimacies with previous partners so he's a twat on that front alone.

Red light definitely. If he can be that rude about an ex then this shows his true colours, I have learnt this the hard way. I would think about whether to carry on seeing him or not.