What would you make of these texts..?

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Nothing too incriminating, I don't think... certainly not in light of some of the recent threads

Just a short exchange of 15 or so messages sent over a couple of weeks arranging a night out between a group of colleagues.

All fairly innocuous "where are we going?" "who else is coming?" "hope you're enjoying the sun" type texts.

But then he ends one (a bit out of the blue) with "it'll be really nice to see you, again x" and another with "ok, see you soon, sweetie x"

Her responses to these are very simple, "great, see you then x" type responses.

The end of the exchange is that he says no one else is going, after all, but suggests they "go out anyway... x" and she declines citing potential workplace gossip as the reason.

Anything to be read into it, or not?

Reading of the riot act time, you don't make date when you are already in a relationship!

I worked with someone who was presented with a night out where everyone had cancelled.....allegedly. He was always on the sniff, so it didn't take much guessing in that case.

She's not interested.

The x only start when he thinks he has hooked her

I hate to say this but his last line "go out anyway" rang alarm bells to me,it sounds like someone chancing their luck but trying to sound casual and test the waters.. All sounded innocent enough until then,sorry I know that's probably not what you want to hear... However clutching at straws could he have been feeling a bit bad that everyone ducked out last min and saw it as a way of being polite about letting her down? Ie knowing she would say no? Hope that last bit makes sense!

Yes he wants a night out alone with her and she isn't interested.

Ask him.

Do you not discuss potential nights out that are coming up? Did he not mention this to you?

Could you say to him "any work dos planned"? Surely if genuine he will say "well there was,but it got cancelled/everyone let me down"

There was the occasional "x" at the end of earlier texts too, but there definitely seemed to be a change in tone to me. I only included the "x" where they followed the phrase because it was the end of the message. Sorry for lack of clarify there.

*clarity

LTB

He's interested in her.

Sorry new here. Yeah I think you're safe that she has declined him. But he is the one putting the offer out there.

Oh ok re x. Alarm bells maybe the use of sweetie. And if he was arranging a night out with colleagues, does that mean she is an ex colleague, ie nice to see you again. Unless it's a very big place of work

LTB

He put the feelers out, she knocked him back.

Not sure why I asked that last question!

Hmm. Thank you.

Sorry if it was a bit disingenuous to be ambiguous, but I am the recipient of the texts. Not the partner of the texter.

I just didn't want to come under fire for 'encouraging' someone when I hadn't. He is married.

I don't think he fancies me, but the endings of the two messages surprised me a little. I just wanted to know if I was reading something into nothing, or whether others would think it strange too.

Smart lady!!

Why did you start adding "x" to your messages too?
He's definitely trying it on, but I don't think you should be adding "x".

So was there really a night out planned with colleagues?

Yes biding,that makes a big difference! Surely she knows if a night out was genuinely planned?

I want to know! I can still picture the look of horror on the face of the girl I worked with when she told us, see my first thread. She got caught good and proper, she went to the pub and he was the only one there!!

Omg,my skin is crawling just thinking about it!