Is this therapist overstepping the mark?

[Roomaloo]

i wasn't really sure where to post this. My H is having psychodynamic therapy and has had about 4 sessions with a new therapist. He always tells me about the sessions after and some things have made me question her, but I'm not sure if that's just what they do?

General examples are she will pull faces to show shock/distaste etc at some things he tells her (usually about his mum) and has made comments along the lines of "Nooooo!" And "She really did that?!" I thought they were meant to stay impartial?

More specifically she said in her opinion there is nothing wrong with watching porn. And that maybe I'm controlling (when my husband said he does not find me controlling she then went on to say maybe he did subconciously!) I was fuming!

Is this kind of thing ok? It's very much more involved than the last lady he saw but that was a different type of therapy

I'm thinking you might be jumping the gun here, too. Hard to say without being in the room! Your example: "she said in her opinion there is nothing wrong with watching porn" bothers me because it really depends exactly what was said, rather than your husband's memory iyswim.

"I have no objections to porn, but I understand many people do."
"My opinion on porn isn't what's relevant here, it's how you feel about your wife's opinion."
"Your wife doesn't like you watching porn. If I told you I see nothing wrong with it, how would you feel about it?"

... are all incredibly different to "She doesn't like porn? Haha! Porn's fine! I don't mind it at all."

Making any sense?

My suggestion, if I may make one, is that he tells her in his next session that "My wife was concerned that you said you have no objections to watching porn." I think the ensuing conversation could be enlightening.

Of course, he's got the absolute right to dump any therapist with whom he feels uncomfortable ... bearing in mind that effective therapy always is 'uncomfortable' to varying degrees.

My training and practice does require that I am impartial. It involves unconditional positive regard for the client. A counsellor can agree with a client. They can also use information sharing and self disclosure, these are valid therapeutic interventions.

Sorry, that should read "My training and practice does not require that I am impartial".