What interests do you share with you DP/DH? What do you chat about?

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A bit of background to my question: i am happily married and coming up to our second anniversary next month. We're both fairly young to be married with a kid (age 24) and our 3 month old has been refusing a bottle so I am trying him on a cup and hoping we can go out for a meal on our anniversary. It occurred to me that now I'm on maternity leave we might not have much to talk about other than the baby! (We both work in IT for the same company so unfortunately used to end up talking about work a lot)

Hopefully we've got a long happy marriage ahead but I do sometimes worry we don't have enough shared interests. The only ones I can think of are food/restaurants, wine, and watching Netflix! We both sort of like photography but he's more of a geek about it than I am. Other than that we sometimes chat about stuff we've read on the news. I get very bored when he talks about work or IT/programming, which is his main interest recently...

What interests do you share with your DP and what would you chat about on a date?

I don't know what we talk about really I think we just talk rubbish. Usually it's along the lines of if you could only eat one meal for the rest of your life or if you could live anywhere...! Actually my OH just talks crap and I just pretend to listen. He is never short of something to say I think he doesn't like silence

I often think of it this way, when I see my friends we have so much to talk about but if I lived with them 24/7 I'm sure we'd run out of things to say!

We talk politics (when we are not talking about children, house etc). Politics and current affairs.

A mix of silly stuff, gossipy stuff, work stuff, current affairs, funny stuff, ...Anything really. We're both freelance creatives and are always bouncing ideas off each other too. And we both like Clash of Clans and the same kind of TV shows. Eating out, cinema, days out where there aren't crowds of people, ...That kind of stuff really.

Children, plans for house and garden, you know, the evolving requirements and needs, friends (so gossip really) wider family stuff, books we read, current affairs and then back to the children again.

I ask about his work but he often doesn't want to discuss it.

Our first night out post DC1 we basically spent all night talking about her...pfb and all that!

Together for 18 years so we must have something in common....

The usual kids/house/work chats
Planning holidays - we like travelling
About friends

We don't often go out on our own - we either go out separately or it's much more interesting if we are with friends

I think it's more that we share the same values than the same interests

Not much talking during the eek as I am usually knackered. We try to go into town for a nice long boozy lunch and a gander about town at least once a month and use that as an opportunity to catch up about stuff. Talk about anything and everything really. Holiday plans, the job he is applying for, politics, our friends and what they are doing, family. I won't talk about my job as it takes up enough of my time as it is.

We watch films together. We always watch a silly action type film on Friday night and then a more intelligent film on Saturdays providing we aren't out elsewhere (which to be honest isn't a problem often as we are unsociable buggers). We eat crisps with hummus and dried mango. It's my favorite part of the week. We have been together for 7 years now :)

Work, as we both sort of did similar things and met through that. Don't work in same field now but can both talk to one another about it.

Music, we like similar.

Friends, we have a big mixed-sex bunch of friends so all friend gossip.

Politics and current affairs a bit - we have similar views.

Both kind of into gardening and Hugh Furry Wittering kind of foody stuff, making things. Then it's dc, tv nonsense, the usual trivia.

23 years married - absolutely no common interests at all. Chalk and cheese. He's my best friend.

In the words of The Streets 'We met through a shared view, I loved me and he did too.' Ha ha

We both work in hospitality so talk about that often in a kind of 'what happened today at work' Other than our jobs we really don't have that much in common. DP usually rabbits on to me about motogp or fishing while I nod and smile (inside thinking 'I have no idea what any of this means') or I talk about Whisky/photography, DP is brilliant at feigning interest!

I think we just talk rubbish. Usually it's along the lines of if you could only eat one meal for the rest of your life or if you could live anywhere...! Funny thisisnow - our pillow talk last night involved 'if you could have 3 houses anywhere in the world where would they be and why.'

We talk about holidays, work, politics, current affairs, the environment, what to have for dinner, books/films/tv/music, random hypothetical questions like thisisnow and jadey mentioned. All sorts really!

Sometimes we talk loads, other times we are doing our own thing and are barely aware of each other's existence. Sometimes he talks about work too much and bores the tits off me, sometimes I witter on about shite and irritate him. We have some quite different interests, but have similar views on politics/ religion and love a good 'putting the world to rights' session. It all works out just fine.

politics, sex, friends, our pets, the children, the future, things that are pissing us off. Dunno, whatever youd normally talk to your friends about and more

Politics, history, films, books, news, friends, family, pregnancy, sex, cats, house, utter twaddle, holidays, work, each other, utter twaddle, sex, utter twaddle, next pregnancy, one after that (or not), who is right (me, clearly, whatever the subject) etc. Never short of things to discuss.

All sorts of stuff: DD's latest lunacies, food, decorating, the progress of Catthorpe interchange, the latest outrage from the recruitment consultants constantly pursuing us both, reminiscing about people no longer with us, the couple two tables away...the comfortable burbling of old gits who can no longer climb 5c, kickstart a Bonnie or shag at the drop of a hat.

Right now OP, you should be making that history. While the DC is portable get yourselves up Snowdon with him in a sling, or maybe try a few preservation steam railways. I'm not sure why, but babies, even tiny ones, are incredibly excited by steam engines.

This is all very heartening to hear :) AdmitYouKnowImRight that's so sweet. I feel reassured now that DH and I are just fine. Sometimes its hard to know what's normal in a relationship as we've been together since we were 19...!

Oh and DisgraceToTheYChromosome that sounds like some great ideas. We recently took our baby up some mountains in Switzerland as we have family there. That's something I'll always remember. Our nearest old railway is Bluebell railway, might have to try that. Could be an idea for our anniversary actually - if DS won't take a bottle or cup by then we'll need to find something we can do to celebrate with baby in tow... :/

We have the same warped sense of humour and our current favourite conversation sparker is the QVC channel of all things. And I mean tears rolling down the cheeks, defibrillator on stand-by, struggling for breath laughing.... .

We have 46 years history so lots of stuff to talk about.We met through politics and are still quite active in local politics.We are both interested in our home city and it's Civic Amenities.We also have our 3 DGC's to talk about and we do look after them a fair bit too.However as we approach our 3 score years and 10,once we start rabbiting we quite often lose the thread and end up on a completely different topic < especially if beer is taken >

We mainly bitch about our friends and family :)

We play stupid conversation games as well which entertain us but probably would drive other people madeg lines from a song or a film into a conversation- who can get the most. DH is really good at that. We sometimes do it when we are at PIL and he is deadpan and I try not to giggle. Pathetic really- you would think we were 12 rather than 35.

We have absolutely nothing in common at all. Completely different. Only thing we both like is the same comedian. / comedy. We talk about people we both know , the news. He's an intellectual - I'm not really. So I love listening to him talk about politics / news etc or telling me about his latest obsession (the solar system, big foot). Most interesting man I've ever known.

DH and I have much in common, we both like a good debate, his love is politics mine is psychology. We discuss current events, dicuss work, laugh about stupid stuff. We can talk for hours and hours, but we can also sit in silence.

Current affairs are usually a good base, keeping yourself well read helps with conversations in general especially when being at home all day with a baby! I'll be back to that in 8 months ha

We've been together 11 years and married 6. We talk about the past (holidays, people we knew, shared experiences etc), our present (dc, sdc, the house, family, our farm, currents events, stuff we've seen or read, food) and our future (holidays, plans, the farm and what we'll do next, our house again and changes we wan to make, money, the dc, etc).

Dh and I aren't stuck for something to say but often we talk about the same things again and again, especially big decisions.

I agree with making memories while your dd is tiny. It really is easy to get out and be busy with them now as they need very little. Much harder when they need snacks and toilet stops and don't listen to you!

DP and I share one main common love that we talk about most of the time: me .

Only joking!