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What interests do you share with you DP/DH? What do you chat about?

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Flingmoo · 22/09/2014 19:04

A bit of background to my question: i am happily married and coming up to our second anniversary next month. We're both fairly young to be married with a kid (age 24) and our 3 month old has been refusing a bottle so I am trying him on a cup and hoping we can go out for a meal on our anniversary. It occurred to me that now I'm on maternity leave we might not have much to talk about other than the baby! (We both work in IT for the same company so unfortunately used to end up talking about work a lot)

Hopefully we've got a long happy marriage ahead but I do sometimes worry we don't have enough shared interests. The only ones I can think of are food/restaurants, wine, and watching Netflix! We both sort of like photography but he's more of a geek about it than I am. Other than that we sometimes chat about stuff we've read on the news. I get very bored when he talks about work or IT/programming, which is his main interest recently... Blush

What interests do you share with your DP and what would you chat about on a date?

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Benedictinemonk · 24/09/2014 08:38

DW and I met 16 years ago and were married within 6 months. No kids - we met in our 40s and both childless by choice.

Met skiing and that remains a common passion, but also learned quite quickly that we both enjoyed sailing, and a few years back bought a small boat to indulge that interest. We've more recently also taken up kayaking together in the summer, and occasionally we'll get on our bikes and cycle the local country lanes - overall we're pretty active for a couple now in our late 50s.

She was from a hockey playing background, me from rugby - both too old to still be playing, but we share a general interest in sport (a few years back I asked what she wanted for her birthday and she said 'tickets to a cricket test match'). We do a lot of walking on the beach/in the woods with our dog.

Had overlapping tastes in music; I've learnt to enjoy most of what she likes, she tolerates some of my choices, though there are some things we each can't understand how the other can listen to (Celine Dion FFS, what's that sh*t about?). We have differences in our tastes in literature and film; she's into what I think of as 'girlie' stuff - Jane Austen, Brontes, Thomas Hardy and a pile of French stuff (she's fluent in the language), I'm more into escapist action/adventure tosh (I know it's mindless rubbish, but I enjoy not having to think too much sometimes).

Both enjoy popping to the pub for a beer or glass of wine after any of the skiing/ walking/sailing/kayaking/sailing, and love to eat out every couple of weeks

Both pretty political, with similar views overall, though we disagree about some issues and that leads to lively debate.

What do we talk about? Any and all of the above, but sometimes we just sit in front of the log fire and chill out (eh? Confused OK, not quite, but you know what I mean) in silence - sometimes there's no need for words.

Hatespiders · 24/09/2014 08:47

We talk about politics, travel (discussing our 'dream holiday' as well as planning our next trip) what we'd do if we won the Lottery (endless fun, that one!) religion and ethics (he's a Muslim, I'm a Christian, and we're both interested in the other's creed) clothes, as we both like them.
But can I just add that we've got on beautifully all these years due to each of us having his/her own space. He has his blasted football (yawn), he plays for our local team and does training with his mates, watches all the matches on TV and is obsessed with the thing, which I'm very happy for him to do. I'm obsessed with gardening (yawn from him!) and go to open gardens, garden centres, gardening clubs and so on with my friends. We can spend whole weekends absorbed in our separate interests, and don't mind a bit. I feel one can't be like Blib and Blob in a marriage, it gets stale. Some old couple years ago on TV, married for 60 years, said "Let there be space in your togetherness". We've found that to be good advice.

MiniTheMinx · 24/09/2014 11:56

Together 15 years and some days we speak very little about anything, but that seems to suit us. When we do find ourselves in the same room we seem to have plenty to talk about. Rarely talk about household stuff, mainly because it goes over his head and I just feel bored by it.

When we do talk it's usually politics, economics, ethics, religion (we are both agnostic) current affairs, films and music. We often discuss what we are reading with each other and we talk about the children. Very rarely I might mention something about a friend but he is usually dismissive of any conversation centred around individuals. We talk about science quite a bit because the eldest DC provokes some interesting discussions about physics and chemistry, a lot of it is far too complex for me but I nod and listen.

BitOutOfPractice · 24/09/2014 16:18

God we just chat about shit. What we've done in the day. Plans for the rest of the week - logistics etc. The kids. Things I've read on MN! Food (very common theme!) and drivel like 70s sitcoms or the best brand of washing machine. We never seem to be short of chat

IThe only part I switch off for is his long and detailed description of his commute to London in very great boring detail

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