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my great nanna is going to die today

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wilddogbert · 13/09/2014 20:15

Well soon anyway I am with her now and it won't be long. It feels so unfair even though I am aware that it isn't she has lived for years and she has 6 great great grandchildren who love her.

My grandmother was a rather bitter woman who only visits her mother once a year and my mother has ran off to some country or another so she never visited her much either but she is so lovely really she is and the DCs all love her so much and we see her at least 3 times a week.

She has been going down hill for two years or so she used to go out with her sister/best friend every Saturday but then her sister died and she stopped leaving the house.

She called me last week with a pain in her chest. She is too old and frail for the operation and then she stopped drinking and eating and apart from Sunday when I took the DCs to see her she has just been so quiet and sad.

My brother is sick and lives the other end of the country so he can't be here now though he did see her last weekend. My grandmother said that she was on holiday (not that I really want her here) her last brother (she was one of 10) lives too far away and I'd too frail to travel.

So it's just me here now. My DH was here put I sent him home to put the DCs to bed because they will be upset and the ILs will need a break. He is coming back at some point.

It's feels wrong that she is going I am 6 months pregnant with twins and she was so excited and now she won't meet them.

Sorry this is just a rant it's just me and her in a room with a nurse checking on her occasionally who offers me tea.

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MoominKoalaAndMiniMoom · 14/09/2014 11:01

Flowers for you and your lovely great nanna wild

lunar1 · 14/09/2014 11:04

I am so sorry for your loss wild. Did an amazing thing for your nanna.

SmellyFartado · 14/09/2014 11:09

I am so sad for you all. I don't know you or your family yet what you have so eloquently written has been heartfelt and it has really struck a chord with me. Your nana sounded like a wonderful lady and so are you for being with her on her last journey. God bless you all.xx

Purplecircle · 14/09/2014 11:19

I'm so sorry for your loss

Meerka · 14/09/2014 11:22

I'm sorry.

iggymama · 14/09/2014 11:41

I am sorry for your loss.

Nothing can ever take away the special bond you shared with your lovely nanna.

aylesburyduck · 14/09/2014 12:16

I am so sorry. Even though you were expecting her to pass away, it is still sad and painful.

I think you are amazing to have spent the last precious moments with her.

Sending you hugs

xxx

ajandjjmum · 14/09/2014 12:39

You were so lucky to have each other - take time now for yourself. RIP.

CurtWild · 14/09/2014 12:46

I'm so sorry for your loss..and so happy she wasn't alone. Thanks to you and all the very best to you and your family. Also wishing you a healthy and happy pregnancy x

CarbeDiem · 14/09/2014 17:07

ThanksThanks R.I.P Special Lady ThanksThanks

What I read at my own Great Nannas Funeral.

There are Nannas to look up to
Nannas who are wise
Those who are good friends
Those who advise

There are Nannas who are lovable
Nannas who are fun
And then there is you Dear Nanna
You're all of these in one

Although it's really painful
To think that you are gone
I know you're in a better place
When all is said and done

I will never ever forget you
And we'll never be apart
In all the special memories
I'll keep forever in my heart

Rest well now dear Nanna
In your eternal place above
You know that you were cherished
And you always will be loved

wilddogbert (((Hugs))) for you and your Family.
I'm so sorry Thanks
Take care of yourself Xxx

mineofuselessinformation · 14/09/2014 18:26

God rest her soul.
I'm sorry you had to lose her.

wilddogbert · 14/09/2014 19:44

, CarbeDiem that is a lovely poem
It feels surreal, I keep thinking that she will call any second (she always called 7:45 on Sunday and Wednesday) but of course she won't be calling today.

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MsAnthropic · 14/09/2014 19:54

but of course she won't be calling today
Sad

It feels surreal, doesn't it? When I went to bed in the evening of the day my granny died I couldn't believe it; it was my first night in a world in which she wasn't.

I'm so sorry for your loss and hope you and your children are doing ok. You sound lovely and it is a wonderful thing to help someone pass and good you were able up say goodbye.

wordsmithsforever · 14/09/2014 20:42

I'm so sorry for your loss wilddogbert. You did an amazing thing being present for her like that. I sat with my mother in a similar way last year when she passed away and I know how heartbreaking it is Thanks

wilddogbert · 16/09/2014 20:52

Thank you so much for your support.
DH had to go to work today and DCs were at school which was hard as there were no distractions. I go back to work on Thursday so I have another quiet day tomorrow. Sad

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aermingers · 16/09/2014 21:03

So sorry WildDogBert. She sounds amazing, you were very lucky to have each other, it sounds like you had a very precious bond.

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