He says I'm always to blame for pretty much everything

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It's my fault he feels he has to lie to me. He was late the other night and after I had uncovered his true whereabouts - from a receipt - he said he had to lie as he knew I would be "like this"

It's my fault he never has enough money. Last night he says he's planning on getting the new iphone so I asked him if he could afford It. He said he would find a way. I often have to subsidise his income in the final weeks before payday so this actually means i will have to afford it. I told him to see if he can afford it out if his expandable income after bills and he says I'm trying to control him.

It's my fault he gets angry because I don't talk to him in the right way. He may have a point in this but if I talk to him in a nice way about something important he doesn't take any notice of what's said so I do feel like I have to be very straight forward when I need to communicate something very important.

Does anyone else have any situations like this?

Your issue is being in an abusive relationship.
You can be saved.
Missed if you said you have girls or boys.
If girls, would you expect them to put up with this from their partners?

it is much easier to see clearly from the outside.

the good people here are unanimous. You deserve SO much better. I know it won't be easy to make the change but life on the outside will make you realise what you have been missing.

perhaps telling him how it is may make him change - but I doubt it.

many decent men out there. Don't waste time on losers.

I am really glad you're not married.

Can you tell us what sacrifice he's making by taking the children to school?

People in abusive relationships have situations like this flux and you're in an abusive relationship. He targeted you from the very beginning (he reads like a cocklodger) and likely was on his very best behaviour back then too. The mask has now well and truly slipped.

What did you learn about relationships from your own parents when growing up, did you for instance see similar behaviours from them too?.

The longer you remain within this, the more opportunity he will have to crush any semblance of self worth you have left. He has done a right number on you to date and he will take you and your children down with him into his pit.

Love your own self for a change and stop giving him money.