Fuck it, I don't care if he reads this. I need your support.

[CurlyWurlyCake]

Married and together 14 years, he is abusive but doesn't admit it.

What the hell do I do.

Married 14 years with 3 DC?

You are all great.

Nearly 2 weeks and here we are again.

I am drinking to forget and he is using that to his advantage "you don't remember last night"

Funny how he reminds me and I suddenly remember he is being a wanker.

Tonight I told him it's the truth or move out, he stomped off doesn't want to admit anything ended with him saying sell the house and pay off the debts

He tidies up and irons but I should he gratefull...

Evening meals and washing stop today.

Good luck Curly with finding a way forward.

Can take many false starts before people exit abusive relationships, don't worry. People like your DH aren't disgusting all the time.... as you describe, it goes in cycles from appalling to normal and back again. I'm sorry your DCs are in the middle of it all, however. Your DD sounds particularly distressed and that's not a great way to grow up. Everyone in the family is gradually becoming conditioned and desensitised to this Punch and Judy Show and, when your DCs get into relationships of their own, sadly it can have consequences.

Hope you follow through on your ultimatum.

Take him at his word.
Get estate agents round to value the property.
Get yourself some legal advice.
Get to CAB to see what you would be entitled to if you split.
And for goodness sake, phone Womens Aid.

Then you'll know what your future looks like away from him.
Knowledge is power.

You knew it wouldn't be long before he started the nasty cycle of abuse back up again.

Do get yourself away now.