Can’t sleep because of a girl

[Theanonguy]

Hi I'm a 27 year old guy but I thought I'd ask Mumsnet since you might have some good ideas on what to do re the girl.

This has to stop now. I’ve been seeing a girl for 3 weeks now and whilst I’m really quite fond of her, what has tied in almost exactly is a distinct loss of sleep. I’ve gone from about 7 hours to 4-5 hours, every night, day after day. I’ve gone from usually passing out at 10:30/11 and waking up at 6:30 to going to sleep at about 10 and then waking up at about 2am and from then on its patchy sleep until about 5:30 after which I can’t go back to sleep.

Shes quite paranoid because shes been messed about before which I think is part of the attraction for me, shes real sweet, bombarding me with texts full of x’s and this started from day one, day after day. I don’t know quite what I’ve gotten myself into but thinking about not seeing her just plain sucks in comparison to seeing her.

So is there anything I can do about this? I prepare as well as possible (I think) for bed, eat well, stop tv etc at 8:30pm, get in bed at 9:30 but it makes no difference to my sleep after 2am. I am sleeping very well from 10pm to 2am which is what’s keeping my fit enough to do my job but I know my work IS suffering which is ultimately the main importance in my life by a mile.

I’ve taken a day off work today to fix this and I’ll be asking this on many forums + seeing the doc today. Thanks for any advice.

Ehric, I totally agree, GRIM!

The responses on this thread are shocking - sneering at a male poster who has genuinely posted asking for advice. It absolutely wouldn't draw the same responses if it was a woman posting the exact op. Pack it in, its a disgrace.

Oh come off it- like we have to bend over backwards for any random bloke who rocks up with romantic issues on a community website to which he has never previously contributed, and we are obliged to take him seriously? Please. No wonder we are a troll magnet. Quite apart from the fact that we are currently being invaded by an MRA page from Reddit, if other threads are to be believed.

Excuse me for firing up my brain cells. Besides which, my advice stands.

I find it cringy to see manpleasing so evidently in action. Yes, springy, I am looking to at you. If a woman posted with such an "off" remit, she would rightly be questioned on it, although this reversing the genders bollocks is getting a bit old now

This ranks very highly indeed in my chart of peculiar threads for 2014.

I have nothing else to say on the matter.

You get to know his (?) style after a while. Only a matter of time before 'she' turns evil, spiteful and vindictive so he (? again) becomes a victim. Again.

It's not man pleasing ffs, don't be ridiculous. There are endless women who post having never posted before on MN and who don't receive some of the despicable posts the op has received on here.

Despicable? Get some perspective. Joseph Fritzel is despicable. Some of the posts on this thread are merely rude, from your somewhat credulous point of view.

Despicable Me. That was a good movie

springy, I do not believe it is women's job to try and make this bloke feel more comfortable about his frankly rather creepy attitude towards needy "girls"